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| 17 Mar 2011 10:29 PM |
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I read a statement on another post which indicated that INTJs don't care about feelings. Yet my anecdotal interactions lead me to believe that at least some do. I'm wondering what sorts of thoughts or considerations various INTJs have in regard to their own feelings or the feelings of others. |
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| 17 Mar 2011 11:17 PM |
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Oh, boy. Here we go again, gang.
Who wants first crack this time? |
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caprice
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| 17 Mar 2011 11:20 PM |
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How bout you Danny? |
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| 17 Mar 2011 11:20 PM |
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9zI3_pnUU3k |
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| 17 Mar 2011 11:21 PM |
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I cannot speak for all INTJs, but for me, I have very few 'feelings', and the ones I do get, I have a hard time naming. I tell this to some people and they look at me as if I am some sort of monster or a liar. I am neither, I just don't 'feel' the way most of the human race does. |
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| 17 Mar 2011 11:22 PM |
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Thank you for your honesty and forthright response. |
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Danny
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| 17 Mar 2011 11:29 PM |
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Posted By caprice on 17 Mar 2011 10:20 PM
How bout you Danny?
INTJs are as rare as we are because, as with many mutated species on earth that do not survive, neither will we, as we are totally and utterly devoid of "feelings".
*Wonders to self* Why do all the INTJ descriptors list us as more sensitive than most types when this is clearly inaccurate information? And yet, all the descriptions say so. Huh. *bangs head on wall* |
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Cooper
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| 17 Mar 2011 11:30 PM |
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What are we sensitive to? |
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| 17 Mar 2011 11:34 PM |
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Hi Caprice. INTJs care less about other people's feelings through shut doors. |
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caprice
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| 17 Mar 2011 11:34 PM |
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Hah, watch INTJs react when their logic or position in any event is challenged. There is feeling attached to the reaction. It's not all Spock. Speaking anecdotally of course. |
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| 17 Mar 2011 11:37 PM |
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I feel. I feel very strongly. I just keep those feelings well controlled, and am often unaware of what it is that I'm feeling when I am feeling. |
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| 17 Mar 2011 11:39 PM |
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Cooper, you and I at least are "special" cases, but I think that "specialness" is based on depth of feeling. *covers statement of admission from Caprice's eyes* |
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| 17 Mar 2011 11:40 PM |
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@ TheHorse that was supposed to be a last comedic reference before I headed to bed. Danny said something to the effect that my comment closed the door on animal ..... banter, no chatter. So I was asserting my power in ending it in a humorous way. Maybe lame. You clearly didn't abide, and I went to bed. But honestly, I like having you guys around. |
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| 17 Mar 2011 11:43 PM |
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Most INTJs are passionate about their stand on things, although a mature INTJ will be able to change their stance....if the facts and logic prove it to be incorrect. Passion does not, however, mean getting all emotional or over-reactive. |
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| 17 Mar 2011 11:45 PM |
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Thank you freeeeeeeeeeeky. I give you "good natured" shit, because I sense that you're a good guy (aside from the INTJ invasion obsequious anomaly). Seriously, I like the fact that your ego is not over enlarged. |
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| 17 Mar 2011 11:53 PM |
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Not to say any other INTJs have overly enlarged egos. 
But I'm wondering more when and where you consider the emotional factor. Not emotional in the sense of drama etc... But as an ENFP I can emply logic when necessary. It is necessary. But so are emotions when dealing with the human race. Or more accurately a consideration of someones emotions. |
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Danny
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| 17 Mar 2011 11:53 PM |
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Caprice, I think to answer your question simply, there are a few points to understand:
1) We have great depth of feeling that seems to be deeper than those around us, which can be very painful;
2) As we "live inside our heads" we learn to manage those feelings so that we can function and be productive;
3) We are often aware how others who don't manage their well and create problems and barriers where none need exist, which is not the same as saying emotions need not exist;
4) and last, we get very tired of being accused of not having feelings, especially when many of us perceive ourselves as more sensitive than the average person.
The *here we go again* is because there is often circuitous conversations on this topic. I have learned that after explaining, either one gets it, or shows promise of getting it, OR one doesn't, in which case I walk away. |
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caprice
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| 17 Mar 2011 11:55 PM |
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Yes. I get it. I just wanted to clarify. |
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Danny
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| 17 Mar 2011 11:59 PM |
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Caprice, most INTJs don't have large egos. Although, I do question our more youthful comrades . . . but juxtaposed to others their age, I don't know that their egos are still not "large".
With respect to ego, it's not "size" but rather "steadfastness".
For what it's worth, I am very aware of what I am feeling and when. Perhaps that is not the same for all INTJs. But, what I do believe IS the same is our ability to manage our feelings. |
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| 18 Mar 2011 12:00 AM |
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I'm a bit of an anomaly...I test as an INTJ, but just barely. I have been INTJ for a while now but I hadn't bothered to check how strongly I favored the 4 traits until recently; in a test I took in my psychology class just a few weeks ago, there were 24 questions pertaining to the T/F balance and 13 of my answers favored T while 11 favored F.... Furthermore, several years ago when I was home-schooled I actually tested as an INFJ (I don't know how strongly F i was compared to T).
I feel that we all feel. A lot. [I don't want to defend this assertion right now unless someone questions it. I hope no one does, backing up this assertion would take a lot of thinking energy, and time.]
I think the main difference with INTJs in this regard is that we have a harder time knowing when it is safe to reveal our feelings, and in what capacity, and how. I guess that's something for us to work on. |
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