What are three qualities or traits that you admire in others (top three)?

To what extent do you exemplify those qualities yourself?

Loyalty, Passion and Individuality.

Loyalty: I dunno why, but I have this pet peeve when it comes to loyalty which I have to admit, is kind of a double standard, because I wouldn't consider myself THE MOST loyal person ever. I am a big believer that when you get to a point in a relationship or friendship that these ties should basically be indestructible. I am often caught off guard by friends suddenly becoming disenfranchised with me and leaving me in the dust. However, like I said, I myself am guilty for ending friendships and relationships over seemingly petty stuff. Usually though, I do end up forgiving and forgetting and shrugging off whatever it was that was eating at me about the person.... so long term I guess I am a pretty loyal person. I will usually do ANYTHING and more to save a friendship, bond or relationship.

Passion: I am really drawn to passionate people. Ones who know what they want and go for it without letting society, culture or norms get in their way. They know who they are and aren't afraid to be themselves. I guess this goes along with Individuality as well, but it is other's passion that I find so inspirational and moving.

Individuality: Have you ever just walked through a park or mall and looked around at people, really study them and then be disappointed because you already have met them. I mean not THEM per se, but people who basically are exactly LIKE them. It is like we have a limited amount of typecasts that people seem to be molded from. Cheerleader, jock, geek, etc etc etc. I am always amused after first impressions with people that I have already had this EXACT conversation and outcome before with someone else. I am so tickled and surprised when I meet someone original, someone who couldn't play a random EXTRA or typecast character role for a movie. Someone who is colorful and stands out in a crowd of boring gray. You should try it sometime, go to someplace that has a lot of people, look at them and see for yourself what I am talking about. You will not be surprised how you have already "met" this person before....

 

Posted By Mogura on 28 Jun 2011 09:45 PM

What are three qualities or traits that you admire in others (top three)?

To what extent do you exemplify those qualities yourself?

compassion, acceptance, understanding.

I admire them in others, and they are defining traits of myself. Maybe even "the" defining traits. If I could list more than three, I could list some I don't have. May I ask why you are asking?

Posted By Mogura on 28 Jun 2011 09:45 PM

What are three qualities or traits that you admire in others (top three)?

To what extent do you exemplify those qualities yourself?

Authenticity, Passion, and Selflessness. They are three traits that are extremely admirable to me and three that I try to work on in myself.

Authenticity - For me it is not about being original or standing out. Its just about being yourself. There is nothing wrong with normal if you're normal. Do I think there would be a lot less blending in everyone was original? Definitely. But that doesn't mean some of those aren't being whats true to them.  That also means being ok with sticking out if you aren't someone whos going to blend in. Thats ok! Be yourself.

Passion - This relates to authenticity. After someone finds out they true self I think its their job to go at it 110%. I want then to love who they are and love what they're meant to do. Best quote for it:

“The only people for me are the mad ones, the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk, mad to be saved, desirous of everything at the same time, the ones who never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn, like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding like spiders across the stars and in the middle you see the blue centerlight pop and everybody goes 'Awww!'"

Selflessness - I really admire ones that give all to serve others. It is something I try to do and its ridiculously hard. I want to give up all my time, money, and passion to help those who most in need. My best friend is selfless in a way that almost seems impossible to reach. Its absolutely amazing to watch.

Loyalty- like Mobocracy I don't consider my self loyal by any means, but I have mad respect for people who are devoted and loyal to a cause, or their family... I view loyalty as intertwined with honor and duty

Perseverance- Someone who just doesn't give up, not the idiot who continues walking into the wall hoping for a different result, but the person who does what they have to do to get something done regardless the obstacles.

Courage- that person who stands up for what they believe in regardless of the odds against them, or the strength of the opposition that stands in their way

In a nutshell- I admire the person who has loyalty to a cause, the courage to do what needs to be done to forward that cause and the perseverance to finish what they started.

Integrity, compassion, sense of humor

I think I embody the above traits with room to work on all. And I can't imagine spending much time with someone who is severely lacking in any of them.

Egoistic self-actualization: "God and mankind have concerned themselves for nothing, for nothing but themselves. Let me then likewise concern myself for myself, who am equally with God the nothing of all others, who am my all, who am the only one. If God, if Mankind, as you affirm, have substance enough in themselves to be all in all to themselves, then I feel that I shall still less lack that, and that I shall have no complaint to make of my "emptiness." I am not nothing in the sense of emptiness, but I am the creative nothing, the nothing out of which I myself as creator create everything. Away, then, with every concern that is not altogether my concern! You think at least the "good cause" must be my concern? What's good, what's bad? Why, I myself am my concern, and I am neither good nor bad. Neither has meaning for me. The divine is God's concern; the human, Man's. My concern is neither the divine nor the human, not the true, good, just, free, etc., but solely what is mine, and it is not a general one, but is—unique, as I am unique. Nothing is more to me than myself!" Max Stirner

Driven innovation: "Vision is the art of seeing things invisible." Jonathan Swift && "The chemistry of dissatisfaction is as the chemistry of some marvelously potent tar. In it are the building stones of explosives, stimulants, poisons, opiates, perfumes and stenches." Eric Hoffer

Getting shit done: "Efficiency is doing things right; effectiveness is doing the right things." Peter F. Drucker && "If you find yourself in a fair fight, you didn't plan your mission properly." David Hackworth

More poetically...

I would have to say:

1)Honesty

2)Being open minded

3)Individuality/having sense of self

I think i have these characteristics...otherwise i wouldn't look for them in others.

Posted By alysaria on 19 Sep 2011 02:52 PM
XD - that's the other reason why I don't ever post on these short answer threads. I have a tendency to rant.

You worry too much.

Tis only the internets *shoulder rubs*

I know....

I once met someone at a temp job who reminded me so much of one of my best friends that I relaxed around him and started chatting with him the way I did with her. The tone, not the content. He found my being "homey," as he put it, disconcerting....and proceeded to pull me aside and inform me of the inappropriateness of such behavior (he was also a temp worker and had no authority over me, btw). -.- I understand why he was uncomfortable, but the perceived connection on my end made me more upset than I should have been about the whole thing. After that, I could not bring myself to talk to him except in the most terse, professional way until the job ended.

I kind of admire...and I suppose envy in a way.... the ability of some people (ESFPs in particular) to put people at ease and make life into one big party that everyone is invited to....and to let those connections go with a shrug if the other person just isn't into it.

Posted By alysaria on 22 Sep 2011 11:27 AM

I know....

I understand the ENFP motivation for social cohesion and 'no fighting or friction'.  But its both non-ideal and is a response to the ENFPs negative experiences as a child.  If you can't be honest without the people around you then there isn't much point in having them around.  Social giveaways are a short term fix, not a long term solution to incompatibility and broad tolerance for the other persons right to voice a viewpoint and them being willing to listen to the other party in a direct and non-retributory way and the same in the reverse between the parties.