Posted By incrediblemind on 24 Jan 2012 09:34 AM

Posted By Entejay on 24 Jan 2012 04:54 AM

Posted By incrediblemind on 23 Jan 2012 10:15 AM

paraglider

 

Ah. I've been planning to do this for a loong time. I was actually willing to go with hanggliding, but paragliding seems a better start.

Do eeeeet!  After the first day on the training slope you will be totally hooked!

Muhahaha! I'm sure I will.

Just for the record, I don't think nightmar149 was whining here. Rather was venting and being honest about feelings. And don't think there's a problem with that. Far better than not talking about it and bottling it up.

yeah, sorry, i originally missed reading the part where you were expressing how you feel, which is why I went straight for offering solutions.. [oops].

I can well understand reaching a point of despair. But it does sound that you’re still looking for answers and not just playing self pity.

 

Ehhh the problem is that with ENFPs, Fi > Te, and Fi for me tends to clouds logic and motivation. While I hate to objectify it like that, it's overwhelmingly true to my life.

I know this well. But seems like you’re talking the problem through here, which is Te in action..

I like incredibleminds suggestions. Also, how well do you get on with your family? Can you talk about some of you frustrations with them? Just thinking from my own experience that family seem to be there through thick and thin, more so than friends. I used to think my mum and step dad wouldn’t get me or understand my situation. But turns out they’ve been great to speak with.
 

Posted By Entejay on 23 Jan 2012 01:08 AM

Posted By Nick on 22 Jan 2012 11:43 PM

But while this world presents itself as a dog eat dog kinda place, I like to think there are many valued relationships out there that operate above this level. The working world is primarily only interested in our sailable talents and skills. But there is much out there that is driven by something more sincere than that.
 

If you say so. Whatevever the value of that there might be.

$57.34
 

;)

Posted By Nick on 25 Jan 2012 01:03 AM

Just for the record, I don't think nightmar149 was whining here. Rather was venting and being honest about feelings. And don't think there's a problem with that. Far better than not talking about it and bottling it up.

yeah, sorry, i originally missed reading the part where you were expressing how you feel, which is why I went straight for offering solutions.. [oops].

I can well understand reaching a point of despair. But it does sound that you’re still looking for answers and not just playing self pity.

 

Ehhh the problem is that with ENFPs, Fi > Te, and Fi for me tends to clouds logic and motivation. While I hate to objectify it like that, it's overwhelmingly true to my life.

I know this well. But seems like you’re talking the problem through here, which is Te in action..

I like incredibleminds suggestions. Also, how well do you get on with your family? Can you talk about some of you frustrations with them? Just thinking from my own experience that family seem to be there through thick and thin, more so than friends. I used to think my mum and step dad wouldn’t get me or understand my situation. But turns out they’ve been great to speak with.
 

 

My parents aren't an intelligent lot. Neither of them went to college and are black and white on literally every situation. I'm not making this up. When I confronted them about something complex and difficult they had no solution except to "ignore the problem". So if I were to bring up (and have in the past) my frustration and loneliness my mom would offer to take me to a psychiatrist to get anxiety/depression medications. My dad would probably avoid the subject altogether. My sister is the only family member whom I can talk to about this, but she is in the same boat as me and will only end up wallowing in our mutual pit of despair without the ability to offer legitimate suggestions and advice.

You are acting out your own demise, like it is some carefully scripted movie.  See your previous post - every sentence you start is about someone else and how they didn't come through for you.

You have to start acting out your own positive future - it won't feel right at all - it will all feel fake, because it actually will be.

Ditch your old world and way of thinking and acting out, and simply go and DO whatever that it is you want to become.  It's like giving up smoking - it hurts and it feels wrong, but you just keep doing it and it works out.

Just start with small things and small successes.  If something doesn't work out, do not be tempted to use it as proof that it will never work out - this is the same trap that you are trying to get OUT of.  You are in control, not them.

Do not be tempted to hold others accountable for your lack of success. It's just too easy to complain that it's their fault, but it's not - it's yours.

So start today.