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Were you upset when read about ENFPs?
Last Post 21 Aug 2011 11:36 PM by PansyQuail. 36 Replies.
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Chaosity 
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| 13 Jun 2010 12:58 PM |
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Personally, it helped me understand myself a bit better. I had no idea why I just didn't fit in. I could act like everyone else, but no one could act like me, if that makes any sense at all. But, if I had a choice of a type to be, I'd probably go with ENTP, rather than ENFP, because I'd prefer to be a thinker than a feeler. I'm 55/45 Feeler vs Thinker. In fact, I act more like an ENTP as long as my feelings aren't involved. When that happens, oh hell, I'm uncontrollable. I can go to raging to crying within seconds. I have difficulty keeping my feelings in check. Which tends to irritate me later, once I have calmed down. But I love being bubbly and loud. And making everyone look at me... because you know, it is always all about me.  |
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| 01 Jan 2011 11:17 AM |
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I was relieved beyond belief. I've always been freespirited and thoughtful and felt that my intuition was highly evolved and now I know why. Plus, don't forget that we belong to a minority of the population in terms of being intuitively aware. Most people have little to no concept of what intuition is, much less able to tap into it. I'm so grateful that I can use my intuition like I would any other mental ability. |
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| 01 Jan 2011 11:28 AM |
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*pelts noobie with pebbles*
Contrary to what you believe, all humans have the ability to use their intuition and do so with some sort of regular basis. The fact is that intuition is simply not the preferred function by most of the population. This easy misconception is essentially the primary reason why the internet believes that intuitives are superior to sensors. |
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| 01 Jan 2011 02:07 PM |
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What do you mean by "the internet", Rogarn? Are you talking about people on forums, or maybe type descriptions, or something else entirely?
I loved discovering I was an ENFP. It was a relief! I felt like all of my peculiarities were validated and I really was living my best self. It was also just great to hear myself described so completely. I mean, I was already aware about most of those things about myself, but it was nice to see it all concretely described. I feel like understanding these things more concretely has given me some more tools to work with. It helps me know how to better work with myself and others. I have had so many epiphanies since thinking in terms of MBTI... not that MBTI is a complete picture. It has also been wonderful realizing that there are other people like me that make sense to me and who can understand me. And ENFPs are so cool. Who wouldn't want to be an ENFP? |
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BirdsallSa
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| 01 Jan 2011 11:46 PM |
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I'm going to copy and paste from my intro waaaay back when lol.
"After recieving the diagnosis of ENFP from two personality tests I set about researching it (I research stuff I'm interested in pretty intesively) and began to understand a helluva lot more about myself; especially how I can get along with just about anybody (the chameleon thing). I had always thought I was retardedly unique. Now I realize I'm not, and it's somewhat of a let down and somewhat AWESOME because there are many people a lot like me to befriend." |
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PurpleGiraffe
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| 03 Jan 2011 11:19 AM |
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Maybe I'm just one of those rationals that just didn't like it, but I, like Holly, found I was disappointed when reading about myself my freshman year of college because I didn't really like myself as much then. I thought I was boring and not as gifted as my older siblings, so reading about myself already feeling boring and lonely my first year of college, I didn't like the result. Every test I took in hs pointed that I should go into the sciences, but I didn't want to. My father did that and so did my older sister. I wanted to go into the humanities, even though I found myself in college taking the MBTI in a class as a pre-req for a major I wanted to use to go to vet school, I guess I didn't like the results because I was torn. I wanted them to tell me that I was a bad ass who should go into something else because I didn't want to be a vet anymore. I wanted the test results to read: "PurpleG, you are a badass. Stop trying to mold your education to what you think you should do instead of what you want. You are pretty rare, pretty special, and you can do or have anything you put your mind to. Remember that." I guess they did actually tell me that, but it took a little bit to figure it out. Once that class was finished, I completely switched majors and became vastly more content in my skin. The End. |
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DarthKobold
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| 21 Jan 2011 09:19 PM |
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Maybe I'm just one of those rationals that just didn't like it, but I, like Holly, found I was disappointed when reading about myself my freshman year of college because I didn't really like myself as much then. I thought I was boring and not as gifted as my older siblings, so reading about myself already feeling boring and lonely my first year of college, I didn't like the result. Every test I took in hs pointed that I should go into the sciences, but I didn't want to. My father did that and so did my older sister. I wanted to go into the humanities, even though I found myself in college taking the MBTI in a class as a pre-req for a major I wanted to use to go to vet school, I guess I didn't like the results because I was torn. I wanted them to tell me that I was a bad ass who should go into something else because I didn't want to be a vet anymore.
I wanted the test results to read:
"PurpleG, you are a badass. Stop trying to mold your education to what you think you should do instead of what you want. You are pretty rare, pretty special, and you can do or have anything you put your mind to. Remember that."
I guess they did actually tell me that, but it took a little bit to figure it out. Once that class was finished, I completely switched majors and became vastly more content in my skin. The End. I just got through that phase of my life, actually. I know exactly what you mean. My folks wanted me to be an engineer, working in a lab somewhere by myself, but I know I've wanted to work with people. Right now, my mother's in denial but my father more or less is starting to understand. But yeah, when I got my result, it made me feel great! I had thought a lot of my "people skills" and "activities" as being bad things which some folk accused me of being an attention whore. It's one of the deciding factors behind me leaving a lot of my negative friends behind and just plain diving into being loud, active and switching interests at the drop of a hat! I started following my gut more, realizing that the ideas that other people put in my head about me were based on their own flaws and I had a completely different set of screwups to pick from  I mean, I started getting involved with student gov, and helping out with community service and saying hello to EVERYONE, when I finally realized that that sort of stuff actually made me happy I'm trying to work on balancing out some of my inherent flaws, but it came a long way in helping me understand why I am the way I am and how I could change my life to the way I want it to be! |
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Lauren
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| 07 Feb 2011 02:41 PM |
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No, ENFPGuy, I wasn't upset; I was delighted to have an explanation for why I was so different from other members of my family. Besides, having a "type" doesn't mean you are not unique. It's been said that every ENFP is like every other ENFP, like some other ENFPs, and like no other ENFP. We have some characteristics in common, but we are still unique individuals with our own peculiar combination of genetic, environmental, and experiential influences. |
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| 09 Feb 2011 05:27 PM |
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When I found out I was an ENFP, I was upset. I thought I was unique but not so much. It took me a few weeks to get over it and embrace that others are like me... and I will always have my strengths and weaknesses.
How about you? I'm not an ENFP, but I can relate to learning about type for the first time. I was actually very happy that my thought processes and sometimes quirky behavior could be explained by psychology. It also allowed me to understand my interactions with my immediate family (all SJs...), and my friends. I knew immediately that learning about MBTI would improve my life so I embraced it right away. I understand your feelings about not being unique, but you are more than your type. I was glad to know I wasn't unique in certain regards so maybe that accounts for our different reactions. I learned why being in crowds tires me out. I learned that nonstop stream of thoughts in my head is called Ni and that it's actually my friend. I even learned why I have to meticulously plan almost everything I do and why people in my life joke about my tendency to be extremely over prepared in any situation. I just consider any insight into myself and others to be a good thing. |
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| 17 Mar 2011 02:50 AM |
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Posted By ENFPGuy on 12 Jul 2009 06:11 PM
When I found out I was an ENFP, I was upset. I thought I was unique but not so much. It took me a few weeks to get over it and embrace that others are like me... and I will always have my strengths and weaknesses.
How about you?
It seems to me that ENFP does want to be (or being treated as) special. Anyhow, I do admire their incredible ability to get over failure within a short period of time. This is something that amazes me of their capability of speedy recovery and gives themselves another confidence boost for setting a new goal.
Actually, I would rather be an ENFP, rather than an INFJ. I'm seriously sick of giving and worrying about needless things... *sighs* |
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TheMorrigan
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| 21 Mar 2011 09:53 PM |
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This idea (being upset) contrasts greatly from a lot of INTJs who are relieved or happy to find some reason why they are a freak. With that said, I think there are some who are probably sociopaths (not INTJ) and use the MBI to hide their lack of empathy (and give us a bad name, the rotters). I am glad to see there are some who are happy in their skin. Since there is an over-representation of ENFPs they will never have to deal with knowing only one or two people IRL who share your thinking style. It can be very lonely and patience devouring trying to fit and explain things in a way that others understand. |
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mrStevens
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| 22 Mar 2011 03:10 AM |
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I want to echo the other INTJ's who said they were relieved. Going through life feeling like an alien can really suck. Finding out there were others out there just like me was so very liberating. The vocal majority can be really mean at times too. |
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Seamonkey
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| 22 Mar 2011 05:20 AM |
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I like our randomness. I like the way we're good at everything. I like our people skills and ability to manipulate. I like our foresight and being able to see the best in people. I like being outgoing, smiling and confident. I like our WE CAN attitude. I like our creativeness, and ability to get on with anybody. I like cooking, singing and running, often at the same time. I like my moral code and strive for justice. I despise cheating, unfairness and washing up.
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| 24 Mar 2011 01:38 AM |
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I was totally mistyped when I took the MBTI the first time in college...I forgot exactly what I got...IXTX...it was like 'the artisan' or 'the mechanic' or something. I think I was seriously mistaking my desire for more order and logic in my life at that time with what I actually was. As a result, the profile completely did not fit me at all. I took the test again just a year or so ago, got ENFP...read the profile...and everything just slipped into place. I love being an ENFP...and what's more, I think the more I've come to resemble the typical ENFP, the happier I've become.
I had very poor social skills in high-school and even for most of college...I felt like a perpetual outsider. Somewhere along the line things changed and I became much more social and much happier as a result. I still run away from huge parties and never been one for loud clubs and bars though.
I'm still quite borderline between the F and the T...I think I am definitely more of an ENTP as far as my online presence goes...more pugilistic and confrontational. But the profile doesn't fit the real-life me at all...definitely the people-pleasing ENFP.
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| 05 Jun 2011 10:13 PM |
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It makes me giggle with glee when I can diffuse tension between types by acknowledging something about each that the other didn't understand.
Story of my life!
I used to be really upset about the way i was, I can remember my dad calling me a dumbass alot,
and sometimes in school my teachers would get upset at me because i would ask them questions
that didnt really pertain to what they were teaching, but i needed the answers to fully understand wtf
she was trying to teach. The list goes on and on.... i guess it was just harder for me to find that shameless
happy side of myself due to my harsh childhood.. and it made me hate who i was for a long time....
but since ive been an adult I have learned to accept who i am, and even love who i am...
Finding out my type, and that there are others that can relate... it was intense |
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severineyung
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| 10 Jul 2011 03:17 PM |
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I totally adored myself when I read the ENFP description. Who wouldn't want to be an Idealist "Champion"?  Tons of stuff depicts me so accurately: "ENFPs are both "idea"-people and "people"-people, who see everyone and everything as part of an often bizarre cosmic whole." We are disconcertingly spontaneous, need to feel we are at the center of attention. We need to be constantly reassured that we are wonderful and amazing. I especially loved this: "ENFPs have what some call a "silly switch." They can be intellectual, serious, all business for a while, but whenever they get the chance, they flip that switch and become CAPTAIN WILDCHILD" That is so me! Of course, learning that Mark Twain and Charles Dickens are probably ENFPs encourages me all the more. |
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PansyQuail
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| 21 Aug 2011 11:36 PM |
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At first I was upset, because I always thought F and P were horrible traits. Getting emotional about everything? Not being able to conclude FOR SURE after extensive observation? I was in denial. I didn't like the idea that I wasn't a "thinker" lol But it's true, I have these frustrating issues and yet, I am able to laugh when I lose, dance in the rain, and be ridiculously happy about irrational things. I have come to terms with it... especially after finding "my people", because they're quite likeable. |
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