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I can't make decisions. Damn you, Ne.
Last Post 22 Feb 2010 07:18 PM by alysaria. 5 Replies.
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20 Feb 2010 01:26 AM  

 ENFP's and other types, I need your advice.

 

Ugh. How do you guys make huge, potentially life altering decisions?  I usually start by logically weighing all the pro's and con's. Then, I seek the opinion of someone respected who knows me, my heart and dreams very well. Next, I try to answer personal journey questions such as "well, what do you really want?" "who do you want to be?" and then I try to line those answers against what seems likely to happen. Yet even after that I can't sort things out sometimes. My Fi is unsettled with the outcomes and my Ne can see so many other plausible possibilities.  These decisions are just so huge, how do you ever find peace? I mean, I can barely make my mind up about what to order at a restaurant, let alone the big stuff. grrr. None of my options are weighing out well and it's causing me to feel a bit insane at the moment. I feel like I don't know myself and for someone who is self obsessed with being genuine,  it's super frustrating. .  Yes, the vomit smiley seems appropriate. 

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20 Feb 2010 01:37 AM  
I once read a chess book and there was a great quote:

When you don't know what to do, move a pawn forward


Life always hands you incomplete information... ask an INTP. Sometimes you just have to act and pick something. Often times there is NO way of calculating what is best. One choice is as good as an other: Burgers or not burgers.

These decisions are just so huge, how do you ever find peace?


Two ways. Realizing in a cosmic way that they aren't big choices and nothing matters as long as you try your best and are a good person.

Only giving up is failing.

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20 Feb 2010 01:38 AM  
Stop calculating and act. Fortune favors the bold.
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20 Feb 2010 01:41 AM  
FYI look at my website for my business texasatlanticcapital.com It has "Audentes Fortuna Iuvat". Machiavelli was the first philosopher to realize that fortune favors the bold. You can read all about it in The Prince

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21 Feb 2010 11:28 PM  

Thank you for your unput! But I have to say, though this is great advice and traditionally I am all about ceasing the moment, what about when other people's hearts are at stake? Or you don't have the financial security to make an unwise choice? Any thought there?

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22 Feb 2010 07:18 PM  
The ENFP I met working at a kiosk in the mall over the holiday season said he'd never filled out an application in his life. He just bought a ticket to wherever he wanted to go, went up to the manager of wherever he wanted to work, and charmed his way into a job. >.> He was even allowed his ENFP eccentricities (like taking random breaks to chat some random girl up for 3 hours) because he proved he could do his job well and made a considerable amount of money for the company....because he knew people and could connect easily. He even said that money is pointless, and relying too heavily on it is silly. O.O It's too easy to get bogged down by J thinking....that you have to have a plan. That you have to have security. That you have to be whatever way and do whatever sort of job or you'll end up dead in a gutter somewhere. Sometimes I do just want to go. I don't have anything holding me back but relationships. That's what binds me. I think I'm half afraid that if I do just go I won't stay in touch and I'll just disappear into the ether. Sometimes I want to just disappear into the ether.
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