25 yr old INTJ looking for ENFP. Distance is not an issue I think If its a match, Theres allways a way to fix a problem. Distance is just one. We can find a way or make one. But it would be nice if your in the same state, preferably.

It's very odd to approach a lady in such a manner that eschews courtship and goes right for the jugular.It's more like a business transaction than an appeal for romantic engagement.

Perhaps some ladies appreciate such forthrightness and certainty, but it's a bit foreign and strange to creatures of spontaneity and romance.

There's nothing wrong with wanting to settle down and have a happy relationship with someone, I'm just concerned that your approach is more likely to get quirked eyebrows and headtilts all the way to the shoulder more than intrigued curiosity.

Which brings me back to your age.

25 is a perfectly fine age to settle down, but it's also a perfectly fine age to stay single and establish yourself fully. If you're already fully established and have nothing left but a woman-shaped space to fill....ok then.

Anyways would be fun to meet an ENFP and see what all the fuss is about of INTJ/ENFP relationships and intercommunication . Im open for friendships and getting to know . I got AIM, and other messangers. etc If anyone is curious what my AIM username is its GrandVenturer.

We'll had I gotten too caught up in my approach and gotten so perfectionist about it... I would have probably never made this thread... I would have been caught up so much in Analysis Paralisis that I would have never made the post. Think about it, Thats a mark of a balanced mature and well developed INTJ, One that takes action and doesnt get caught up in analysis paralisis. I mean if your the one looking, I can see how your opinion above can be your obstacle to finding a great INTJ if your interested in one. If you havent found one allready.

Personally, I think the benchmark of a mature INTJ is knowing that he/she is not mature. There are so many things (events, information, other perspectives) a single individual can't possibly know about the world to ever truly call themselves mature. I wish you well in your search, but you might want to rethink your approach because you don't appear to be winning points with the ENFPs, in my guesstimation (but I can be wrong.) That analysis is, of course, just my personal criterion for the assessment of maturity. Keirsey postulates that the benchmark of a mature INTJ is the developed use of strategy into human interactions, so even at that rate you might want to consider rethinking a few things and listening to Alysaria's advice. There are a lot of INTJs on the internet, so make yourself stick out, in a good way to some INTJ-seeking ENFP.

And now I've gotten you to share some of yourself, which was my evil plan...bwahahahaha!

Ladies Ladies... Its very simple... Im looking for an ENFP (girl) to get to know... It would be very nice if she was near Florida, because if things are nice thru online communication or whatever it is, then at least knowing we can see eachother in person would be nice and we can all agree that a good relationship is better in person than over all this online stuff. If your an ENFP looking for an INTJ then your free to message me directly and introduce yourself too, and if you want to learn more about me then direct yourself at me or message . Simple... But im not going to be divulging alot more information about me on this public forum, im INTJ, I have a private lifestyle, im Independant. I mean if you really want to get to know me, Then you know what to do.   If your not looking to get to know someone new, where ever it may lead ... then move on... I dont want to hear no more whining... Theres no reason to complicate the simple. haha.. I thought ENFPs were fun? wheres the Fun and lighthearted, spontaneous ENFPs? Thats the type im interesting in talking to.

Oh and obviously I dont need to post here to talk to ENFPs. But isnt this what this sub-forum is about? "Meet the ENFP of your Dreams?"... to be more DIRECT about things? Obviously it is.

Posted By alysaria on 29 Oct 2011 09:43 AM
The box is a box. And you are getting defensive instead of taking the advice for what it's worth. I'm not telling you "THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO"
My point is you're not trying to sell something on craigslist.

So if the box is still a box in your opinion, then why are you still here? Whats your persistence? I don't want the advice. I want to be myself... If you don't like it, Im not for you.. (that is if you were looking... ) and if your not looking then you should practice minding your business. I don't have anymore polite way of saying it Seriously.. My point is you have a preconcieved idea of how things should work, and you get frustrated if it doesnt work it doesnt work that way. INTJs arn't conventional. We are unconventional. We dont follow the norms or status quo. I mean if this is something you don't like , maybe you should leave it here. We INTJs dont really need advice, we can find our own way thru life and are perfectly fine and successful at it and Independant. As cruel as the following might sound ... If anything the people who need INTJs are ENFPs..  You know all those dreams ENFPs have? That they would love to achieve? but in thier hearts they are pretty disillusioned and believe that they might never achieve it? Well with the help of a caring loving INTJ that decides to take an ENFP along side all those dreams are not only possible but a piece of cake thanks to the INTJs structuring , diligence and genius. I have alot to offer if you still think a box is still a box then I can clearly see you havent done much reading up to do in regards to what INTJs are and what they can do and cannot do, and how they would be an excelent compliment to an ENFP. Otherwise having you just read the letters INTJ that would have lit a fire in you to want to know more.  If you think that the box is still a box then I take it you havent studied the subject of INTJ/ENFP intercommuncation and relationships much, but thats ok I dont expect you to.  The point is the problem is not me. and Im writing all of this not just for you , but for all others to see, and on behalf of other INTJs. So that maybe you can understand us a bit better..