Thank Nick. Yes, I'm open to other types, certainly open to an ENFJ but haven't found one of those either :-P I dated an ENFP last year. He is a great guy who loves the Lord but he was immature relationally. I never felt that I could compete with the idealized version of the perfect woman/relationship that he had in his head. I realize that that is typical of ENFP's but I figure that a guy with more life experience or relational experience won't put so much pressure on me or think that the relationship is over when the butterfly feelings have gone away. So, I haven't given up on the ENFP male just because one was immature :-) He had the other fun, deep qualities that seem to go along with your type.

So, yes, I pray. I used to pray and wait. Now, I pray and am proactive...like this post...which by the way is a HUGE leap outside of the comfort zone for an INTJ female. :-)

Posted By Nick on 19 Jan 2012 12:09 AM
Hey Deborah,

Yes, we ENFP guys are pretty good aren’t we. haha. I’m down in Oz, but there’s a few north American ENFP guys here..

Kinda get where you're coming from. Not that many INTJ girls around my neighbourhood either.. nor INFJ's for that matter. Of course you folks only make up about 1 to 3% of the pop. And adding Christian to that brings it down to a lucky 0.3%. Oh yerahh... : ]

Along with presenting your request to God.. (which is a great thing to do!) and looking outside of town.. maybe it’s worth considering some other mbti types? MBTI match ups are good, but they have to be weighed up with other things like cultural factors, values, life stage differences etc. So an ENFJ for instance might present better than an ENFP. Don't know off the top of my head what other potential match ups there are for INTJ's are, but for ENFP's, the INFP's are also a good match for us.

alysaria and some others have mentioned some other good stuff about mbti match ups in other threads which are worth a read.

And it's good to be pragmatic about these and not just sitting by waiting for things to happen.. go go!

Cheers.

Looks like it's a lot more difficult the other way around. I've met plenty of ENFP women, both Christian and non-Christian. I haven't clicked with all of them, but they can be so very sweet. There was one in particular to whom I became very, very close, (we even talked about marrying some day when we're both ready) but I think something freaked her out, and she's totally cut me out of her life now.

As tough as the odds may be, there's got to be somebody out there for you, and hopefully it won't be too long before you meet her. Good luck Nick, and may God bless you, relationally and otherwise.

Dude. I wish you all lived in my area. All the things about church and religion everyone is complaining about are things I absolutely hate too... and is exactly the reason I'm at the church I'm with now. Hookers and anyone else are more than welcome. I've seen some very un-churchy people there, and they're very accepted. A few have even wound up on staff . The pastors are very careful to know their bible and preach it for what it says (usually they just read a whole passage instead of a single verse out of context). And the attitude towards evangelism is to just love everyone like Jesus would and leave the rest up to them and God. In fact the whole church was founded on the idea of loving and serving people through random acts of kindness instead of trying to convert them through salesmanship. Pretty sure the pastors are mostly a bunch of NFs too. 

To anyone who's given up on church, I'd encourage you to shop around a little more. They aren't ALL cut from the same cloth. There are a few good ones out there.

Posted By JuliaBell on 25 Feb 2012 10:39 AM
It's definitely ridiculously hard to find INTJ's or INFJ's. The thing is, I've absolutely positively fallen in love with those two personality types. I found someone in my church who I am SURE is an INFJ or INTJ. I'm 90% sure he's INFJ. He's not too ridiculously conservative either. He's extremely interesting. He's also musical, like me. Needless to say, I'm just going to keep an eye on him. Just because even if nothing would ever happen between us in a million years, he's a really great friend to have and I'd hate to lose him.

Ah. Yes. Forget to mention I'm an ENFP Christian. Hello. ^^

ASSAULT HIM WITH RAINBOWS AND SUNSHINE! That seems to work for some reason, at least on the INTJs. 

Also, welcome, fellow ENFP Christian! You should go on down an' post a lil' somethin' 'bout yerself in the intrerductions thread, there missy.