It's interesting how some put the virtue they value most in themselves and aspire to, while others put the virtue they most lack and wish they had. Yet, by nature, wouldn't my finding certainty of purpose or kitten the empathy and tact to avoid blunt honesty or eloi a placid mental state make us other than what and who we are? Being too decisive for me would mean I was setting aside possibilities and essentially killing my Ne. Kitten wouldn't be an NT without that ability to disengage and state opinion bluntly - sometimes that's necessary, even if it seems cruel, because emotions can sometimes give NFs too light of a touch.....and make hard truths that need to be said weak and tepid....and completely ineffectual. And eloi, the mind of the INFJ is literally the eye of the storm...yours is such a sensitive type that everything in the world is madness next to the peacefulness that surrounds you. The lack of calm is what alerts you to something not being right and allows you make effort to restore your equilibrium.

I dunno. I rather like the ideal....and I think you should always strive to be your best....but sometimes the things that seem to be in need of changing are among our greatest strengths.

My most desired virtue is extreme patience. I do not have very much patience and I would love to be more patient and kinder.

I wish I had more Ti.