First off, I would like to say hello to everyone in this forum! I just arrived today in dire need of some advice.

I suppose I am an ENFP (champion). At least that is what the Briggs test told me after filling out all of the questions (I related to the description pretty well).

I am currently 20 years old, been dating the same girl now for about 5 years and have been blissfully happy for about the first 1-2. The other 3 and even in the first two years a little, I have been pondering over the question of, "Is this relationship what I really want". We contrast very well with each other but also can relate equally as well. I tend to be very physical (in the bed room as well as in the gym) and hold a strong sexual relationship as something that is very important to me. I love to excel at my long term job goal which is becoming a freelance/contracted based graphical artist. My girlfriend is very cute (sometimes so cute, it is kind of annoying), not as sexually involved in me as I am in her (she just doesn't seem to have the raging sex drive that I have), and wants to become a Physical Education teacher. She is also very playful and has a very youthful, fun-loving view about life. We both are liberal thinkers that are accepting and tolerant, do not believe in marriage, have no desire to EVER have children but still believe that long term relationships are possible and in many cases a good thing.

I find myself constantly leading girls on and then pulling out (no pun) at the point were they want something more from me than just friendship. Sometimes I lead girls on unintentionally (just my persona I guess, very flirty).

I love to go out to parties, but with booze for me, sometimes leads to a little bit more of a intimate relationship with some of the girls I meet that does not fit my moral character (since after all I am currently in a relationship), but somehow seems to happen every so often anyways.

I really think that I love the girl I am with now, but can't figure out if what I am feeling is actually a crutch in which I use to have a safety net for myself. I talked with my lady friend about this yesterday more in depth then I have ever talked to her about this subject and am really having a VERY hard time figuring out if I should stay with her or leave her. I love social interactions with other people and don't know if being socially monogamous on a intimate level with one person is justifiable since I am in college, have an opportunity to meet many other girls, and have NO other serious relationship experience outside of my current relationship.

So now that you have read a half page, condense description of the battle I am waging with myself I have been facing for the last 5 years, what are your opinions on how I should handle this situation? Should I sacrifice my glory days of college on the basis that I might have found someone I will be with for the rest of my life, or should I just say, "the hell with it" and finally take the leap into the unknown, meet a variety of different people and get a little crazy?

Thanks for any replies.

If you've cheated on her, then leave her. If that's the case, then she deserves to be treated WAY better and will probably find someone who will treat her well in no time. Welcome to the forum, man whore.

Oh, and I'd also like to add that maturity is nothing more than a summary of your decision making.  Obviously, if you decide to choose drinking and partying and sex over something real, you are undoubtedly immature and quite frankly, stupid :] ...just sayin.  And on top of that, you can dream on if you think that there will be another woman like her in the future who agrees with you on the major topics you mentioned above.  Ha, yyyyeah... good luck hoppin' that train, daddy.   

"I love to go out to parties, but with booze for me, sometimes leads to a little bit more of a intimate relationship with some of the girls I meet that does not fit my moral character (since after all I am currently in a relationship), but somehow seems to happen every so often anyways."

Dude, booze doesn't make your decisions for you.  You still make your own decisions.  That's a bull shit excuse.  You can't do anything while drinking that you haven't thought about doing while sober... mmhmm.  I say, fuck you.  You're obviously an immature asshole who doesn't appreciate that gold that he's already got in front of him. 

You disappoint me, Hazle. Please stop being a black cloud

I agree with what Rogarn said, call it quits. I think you are probable right in the fact that you are just using her as a safty net. you need a friend with benefits not a girl friend... Its not very respectful to her feelings or your feelings towards her to be fooling around with other girls. Not to mention I've really never really talked to anybody who stayed with their high school sweet heart and been happy about it. You are in collage, have fun, make friends, party, learn, discover, charm and woo. These times really only come once in a life time.

my only advice is always be honest with her and with yourself, otherwise you will cause great pain.

It might be that you will always be great friends and be together, but not be exclusive to each other. Open relationships are possible if you are both honest and both want the same things in life. Relationships dont fit into a set box of what is right and wrong, it is up to the people involved to decide what is really right for them. However if she wants to be exclusive to you and you dont want that, you need to own up to it and not torture her.

Think about you want and need deep down, and then communicate that honestly. You dont want to lose such an amazing person in your life because you were an ass.

PS: Hazel is right about booze, while it lowers inhibitions it doesnt make you do things you didnt already want to do. Dont ever use being drunk as an excuse for something, because you are lying to both yourself and the person you are trying to fool.

All right, so I'm a little rough around the edges. I think you would be to with my raising in my hood. Just to give you a slight idea of the violence I've been around, I've been stabbed and I've been shot.  In fact, I've been shot on two seperate occassions.  And no, this isn't ENFP over-exaggeration.  I'm just letting you know that I never claimed to be perfect, and you should never expect me to be.  All things considered, I think I'm doing a pretty damn good job at functioning like a normal human being.  Give me a break. Seriously, I apologized, so drop it. It was over looooooooooong ago.

Dear Hazel: It's very tough to have to experience being shot, stabbed and raised in a violent environment, and you are so young too. I feel for you and respect that you have had a hard time in life. It's understandable that you're rough around the edges with that background, but this is a forum for everyone, where we're supposed to be inclusive and civil with each other. It doesn't mean that you can't disagree with people or get mad at others sometimes, but you need to observe your language as it is offensive to be called an asshole and told to fuck off. It's happened a couple of times before this, that you've used coarse language in the threads so I'm asking you politely to tone it down in the future, as you can't get special treatment even if you have a rough background. You don't have to be perfect, being civil and thinking twice before posting very negative responses goes a long way. 

Peace

Hey cgThrow & thanks!

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