I am in a relationship right now with a INTJ woman. I'm ENFP male. Everything you said, minus the namedropping, is true. We agrue all the time and we seem not to agree on many things. But it's small things, that I know we can fix if we are each welling to bend a little. Yet she doesn't. We both don't want to end it, but what can we do? Should I let it go or can it work out?

What Alysaria just said. Plus, I want to add that I've found that the "little things" are often not representative of little things but much larger issues. Like, you two could be experiencing communication issues or bigger problems in the relationship could be triggering symptoms to manifest in "little things." So, if you find yourself fighting often over a lot of little things then talk to your INTJ. You two can make a relationship work, you just both have to be willing to want to put forth the effort and work on solving any problems that are being experienced.

Remember what Einstein said: "No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it." It is easy to create a problem, but creating a solution takes more effort at understanding who and what you are dealing with to come up with a solution.