Posted By truthbeknown on 23 Jul 2011 03:28 PM
i have been going back and forth between the intj forum and here because i believe my ex gf was an intj (although some suggest infj) but not sure just guessing.
What's interesting is the intj's respond almost within hours of a a post or a reply while on this board it seems like days before other enfp's chime in on topics.
i wonder whether that is an indication of what types go online to date more? if enfp's don't spend much time on the computer i might keep runing into introverts.
I am wondering if i would be better matched with an extrovert but not sure. I would like to matched with someone who can communicate similar to me (or at least i think so now).
just an observation; any comments welcome
Okay okay.. so, let's start at the begining! Introverts don't like to go outside, and therefore will be spending more time online. ergo- higher introvert population online as well as more time spent online per person for introverts compared to extroverts.
ENFP's taking a while to post is a mixture of their ability to easily get lost in some passing whim... OOHHH SQUIRREL!!! and their desire for extroversion. either way
I think you get my point.
Online dating... well, this can be a lengthy topic, so I'll keep it short. Online dating has come about mostly because of the internet(no dur sherlock), but it has only recently been gaining in popularity. In fact, a large portion(some numbers indicating 1 out of ever 4 couples) of people are meeting online. Now then, what kind of people are going to participate in online dating? You are going to find that primarily people who have difficulty finding the type of relationship they are looking for in every day life will go to online dating- Introverts. Remember, this is all based on majority here and is by no means set in stone.
I am going to assume you are an INTJ. INTJs are well known to mix with ENFPs, however, limiting factors such as that is a tricky thing to specify. According to socionics.com INTJs match up with 1. ESFJ 2.INTJ 3.ISFP and 4. ENTP
Out of all of the research I have done, I have personally found that the the most succesfull relationships share three letters in common. Usually, this will mean either it is an introvert-extrovert pair, or a thinker-feeler pair. These seem to be the best types of relationships when looking at personality theory alone. You need to remember, however, that looking at personality alone is not the best way to go about things. You should be looking for other factors that play a large part in succesfull relationships such as but not limited to -preference in race, religion, body type, economic status, intelligence, sociability, activities, and job.
I personally think that keeping an open mind for just about anyone is the best policy. See if you can get along with them(as an INTJ that can be a chore in of itself), then see if they have the types of qualitise you are looking for. Is she so smart you feel useless? Is she dumb as a brick? Does she look good? Is she doing well in school? does she have a job?
While searching for these qualities, you might want to decide which qualities are absolutely necessary and which ones are optional. If you simply can't live with that girl who is the genius prodigy of the world, even though she is perfect in every other category, you should probably let her go and keep searching. This is where the difficulty comes in, and where.. regretably.. many ENFPs can not function. As an INTJ this job might be slightly easier, but that is at best a very small difference.
Anyway, just a few ideas to contemplate. Happy Hunting.