Male INTJ here, entering the ENFP den hoping for some responses. I have found that I am very attacted to the ENFP type. For some reason when I'm around them I can only look in wonderment, and think in my very impassive way, “Damn she’s sexy!”.

First time i noticed this conundrum, but not the first time, was my initial crush on tv’s Ellen (who I suspect is an ENFP). Thought she had the most amazing personality. Actually, come to think of it, she still has the same personality now :-) (my bad...lol) I just now know she would have no interest in me, a guy.

Another female (ENFP), I was seriously liking; the same thing. Actually she has some interest in guys, but I found out through someone who is a friend of mine and a relative of hers that she was at one time very into women and is probably latently gay now. All I know is I like her style and personality.

Third case: my buddy’s ex-wife. Very ENFP, and a very good friend. Never imagined being with her, as I would never do that and ruin a friendship (INTJs have so few to begin with). But I did wish I could find someone very similar…maybe she had some friends. Getting to my point, she was very experimental and bisexual, though married.

Problem is this: Just about every female ENFP that I’ve met or happen to meet turns out ultimately to be either in a relationship with a female (gay), or bisexual. Don’t mean to offend if offense is taken, but I thought it would be best to come to the source.

So is this relatively common, have I just been meeting the wrong ENFP’s for me, …or (say it ain’t so) I have some issues I need to work out with who I’m attracted to?

Posted By alysaria on 28 Jan 2010 12:45 PM
Blah. Also...female ENFPs are very....open. I consider myself to be heterosexual, but I've had some....experience that none of the boys on this site will ever coerce me into detailing. -clears throat- Don't discount a lady because of a bisexual experience. Most guys think it's hawt.

not even for.... solid chocolate fairy wings!?

Seriously, I'm actually a bit surprised...  I would have thought gay male ENFPs would be a whole lot more common than female lesbian ones.  Maybe I'm just disappointed because it's undeniable proof that NFs are linking with other feelers, even when all the probabilities suggest that NF women would go after people from other temperaments, so it just means there are less of you for the rest of us .

 I have never been into guys and never will be.  I am a flaming heterosexual.

As far as I've seen so far, ENFP are the type who want to "try everything."

For some of us, that means trying relationships with folks of the same sex.  So people who might have a preponderance to develop an attraction to those of the same sex, and who are also ENFP, there's a good chance that they'll discover that aspect of themselves and "stick with it."

For example, the girl I'm currently 'dating' (in her words, "taking it slow,") is almost certainly also an ENFP, though she doesn't remember her result from the last time she took the MBTI.  ANyway, she has told me that she's had girl-on-girl experiences, simply to see what it would be like.  For ENFP, experimenting is the name of the game... moreso than other types.  So you could see how it could happen.

So find your ENFP girl who likes men

just for the record...gay...

Posted By TheRoyalWe on 21 Feb 2010 09:12 PM

As far as I've seen so far, ENFP are the type who want to "try everything."

 

I can attest to this! I'm straight, but I do appreciate a beautiful woman.
 

"flamboyant"

Posted By sbalbom on 24 Mar 2010 09:16 PM
Oh and good to have you join jdenfp.