and let them drag you around like a shiny plaything until you are their favorite plaything and profess undying devotion and think your more important than their cute adorable keychain (ah you thought i didn't know about the keychain, but i know > ).

I ran the question past my INFP brother just to make sure I wasn't crazy. He said young einstein's situation is definitely "game on," unless two situations obtain.

One, if the woman is living with her boyfriend. That means the relationship is at a pretty high level, which means the woman is trying to create drama by making the boyfriend angry and jealous. Then it is not "game on," but "game over man, game over! Sarge is dead, let's get the fuck outta here!"

Second case would be if the boyfriend is a friend of yours. Then it's bros before hoes.

It is truly unfortunate that I'm saying this but... all the spelling mistakes in the first post made my eyes burn.

Anyway, apart from what advice has been given so far - I'm just going to support the view that you should work towards getting what you want. Notice the 'what you want' part.

And there's no such thing as a helpless INTJ. 

I'll be frank.  I think you're getting bad advice.  Whoever it was that said it takes an eternity for an ENFP to commit is just plain wrong.  We are very loyal but we do love novelties.  That may seem contradictory, but it's really not.  An ENFP will almost certainly know when something is a novelty or not, and that is how we differentiate.  I hate to say it, but you are a novelty.  She is feeding her craving for emotional attachment, intellectual stimulus, and a general relationship that transcends the superficial.  In other words, she has a boyfriend, but she's lonely, and you're not going to fix that.  She knows that.

If you genuinely value your friendship with her, I would advise against trying anything.  It's almost certain to backfire.  If she is an ENFP, she most likely has strong convictions, especially about loyalty.  If you publicize her guilt by touching or making gestures with sexual or otherwise intimate connotations, you will turn her guilt into shame and she will reject you for it.  You will also reinforce her relationship with her boyfriend.

But all is not lost.  I understand wanting to know what you might have, but at the same time not wanting to damage what you already know is there.  You can tread water.  I probably wouldn't be in this situation as an ENFP, unless I were extremely bored in my relationship.  But, if I did find myself there, I would probably most appreciate an honest verbal approach.  Tell her you like her and ask her if she feels the same way.  If you don't feel comfortable with that, you need to find an approach that puts her in a position to confirm or deny.  Ask her out, ask her for her phone number, whatever... just do it in a way that reinforces how she feels.  Doing it verbally is key, I would say.  But I will tell you honestly that I don't think she feels that you are something lasting.  She may like you, but there are different likes in our world.  There are the lasting likes and the intriguing likes.  She most likely wants to consume everything about you to satisfy her curiosity, then move on.  But good luck nonetheless.  Please do update

No! Take the bad advice!

Oh come oooon!!!! Who are you, the spelling police???? You've usually got more interesting stuff to say than that Zsych...

you JUST caught that? I've been questioning his orientation for awhile now.

On average how long dose it take an ENFP to consume everything about me?

Apparently not, since I actually questioned his being INTJ based on spelling mistakes and such since we tend to like being clearer and some of us do have a snooty attitude towards spellings and grammar (or just things being correct) - that may just be the average, but I did consider english as a second language a decent reason for an INTJ to have bad spelling, rather than assuming that he doesn't care.

Edit: Okay, this is embarrassing, I decided to recheck the first post to make sure if this was the guy that had been irritating me, and I was actually thinking of someone else on some other forum when I originally objected to the spellings. The first post seems reasonably okay, as opposed to whatever horror I'm recalling (probably from someone on intjforum - where I just couldn't finish reading the post due to the spelling mistakes)

INTJforum frustrates me to no end