>.> ENFPs throw themselves entirely into whatever they do....and sometimes we forget about our SOs for a little bit, then remember them, feel horribly guilty, and rush back to make sure everything is ok....to the point of being smothering. I see this with my father all the time. You just have to be secure in your independence and trust that he'll always come back. As long as we have a safe, secure place waiting for us, we always will.
My metaphor for this was dogs at a park....big, goofy dogs that run off and play with the other dogs, but always come back to their owner to lather big, wet, sloppy kisses before going off to play again. We know who we're going home with, but it's nice to play with the other dogs....and toys....and leafy branches....and birds....and cats....and any other shiny thing that pops up.