Posted By starbubo on 18 Feb 2011 07:34 PM

 It's been 8 years, I will solve this I just need more time.

 

 

Awww it just wants a hug, come here you big hairy gorrilla you!

Posted By Teal on 21 Feb 2010 11:15 PM

Additionally, I find it confusing that he has this amazing clarity of thought and wonderful sensibilities in just about every aspect, while on the other hand, he talks of us as souls mates and spending a lifetime together when we’ve only been dating a few (intense) weeks. I just smile and nod as I’m not easily frightened by such talk, but isn’t he setting himself up to be hurt? Do ENFPs always act so vulnerably or is he just trying to impress me in some way? (the latter would almost be a comfort). 

Oh, yeah, that sounds familiar.  It's not a bit uncommon for an ENFP to bond very deeply, very quickly, and we tend to be very open about our feelings.  We do act vulnerably.  We are vulnerable.  Sometimes it results in our being badly hurt.  We are also, for the most part, emotionally resilient, which makes our openness and vulnerability a bit less risky than it might be for some other types.  We get hurt, but we recover.  The worst thing you can do is fake anything.  Be as honest and authentic as you are able to be, and trust that what should happen, will happen.

 

We are vulnerable.

Vulnerable = EXPLOITABLE.

PROFIT!!!! XD

I'd like to see an INTJ actually attempt exploit a mentally astute ENFP. Something tells me it wouldn't work, and it would be funny as $&%# to witness.

INTJs are very easy to mess with. All you have to do is tell them their general logic is invalid and their thought processes are skewed and give them solid reasoning why and you can leave them thinking about it for days.

Ok, I'm ENFP, and I'm intense. However, when someone says that we're soulmates after just a few dates, my Personality-Disorder-Detector goes off. Seriously. I'm the child of two people who had personality disorders, and I've spent the majority of my adult life studying *healthy* relationships and how to have one. I have no internal gauge for what is "healthy" because I've spent all my formative years around psychos. I'm also living proof that the child of wackos can grow up to be (mostly) sane. However, I can spot a person with an Axis-II personality disorder a mile away. I can freaking smell them.

Your guy might be stable. However, a tell-tale part of dating a sociopath or narcissist is that they charm the heck out of you, perform for you, woo you, win your heart, and do so very, very quickly. Most ENFP's open up very quickly. Most ENFPs believe in love at first sight, and soul mates, yadda yadda. But this guy has been around the block enough times to know that you don't SAY crap like that when you're just getting to know someone. (I figured that out around age 20. How old is he?) I truly believed that I was going to marry my husband after we'd been dating for two weeks, but saying that would have been the quickest way to doom our relationship. (He's an INTJ.)

Ok, I gotta go, but please keep us updated on this, and please guard your heart as you get to know him better. He could be fine. He could just be emotionally immature. But be careful.

Posted By PurpleGiraffe on 23 Feb 2011 09:30 AM
I'd like to see an INTJ actually attempt exploit a mentally astute ENFP. Something tells me it wouldn't work, and it would be funny as $&%# to witness.

INTJs are very easy to mess with. All you have to do is tell them their general logic is invalid and their thought processes are skewed and give them solid reasoning why and you can leave them thinking about it for days.

 

Oh, LOL!!!!!! 

And also, you can tell an INTJ, "You're insensitive, rude, and totally hell on earth to live with!" and he'll probably think for a minute and say, "You know what, you're right."  OTOH, you can say, "You really freaking messed up this system, and it doesn't work," and he'll be crushed for days. 

And also, you can tell an INTJ, "You're insensitive, rude, and totally hell on earth to live with!" and he'll probably think for a minute and say, "You know what, you're right." OTOH, you can say, "You really freaking messed up this system, and it doesn't work," and he'll be crushed for days.

This only works sometimes.