My longest relationship was with another ENFP. Surprise. Surprise.

We were together for close to 4 years, shared a friendship for 6 years afterwards, which almost ended marriage. I think what kept us together for so long was the fact that we 'got' each other's sense of humor, we both came from similar backgrounds (unstable childhoods, both perservered), we both had a love for art, we used to create art together, laugh, talk, all the time. We were inseperable. Even after hanging out for the ENTIRE day, we would talk on the phone over night. This was even when we knew each other after 5 years! Every moment felt like it was 'new.'

I think what broke us apart was that even though we 'grew together' in the same 'direction,' we eventually grew apart when we grew up and changed in our own sets of values. I think for me personally, I wasn't ever truly attracted to him, physically to begin with. I think it was mostly due to pheromones or something, because he was cute, but I just didn't feel it in that sense, but it doesn't mean that what we shared wasn't true love, because after being with someone for so long, the relationship escalates into a deeper love, like a soul-mate bond. I wouldn't say he's my soulmate in a marriage sense, but I do see him as my best friend for life, and I guess a part of me kinda let go, and a part of him did too.

Anyway, one would think that our 'love' would last forever. People on the streets would comment about how 'cute' we were together, because we were so happy.

To make a long story short- I think it's important to share similar values, because otherwise, the foundation of the relationship will eventually collapse. If I were to run into him again, would romance be possible? Probably not. More like a forever lasting platonic relationship, for me.

Idk.. Love just seems like a bunch of delusional b.s. to me now. But, once you have it, and you're in the moment of enjoying it, it's like a drug, a high, and the person that you're with just feels like your best friend, especially when you click with them. Maybe we were just too immature at that time. I think I went through that relationship for a reason, because now I know what love truly means. There aren't clear cut answers, but when you meet someone who really 'gets' you, it's natural- feels right. No other way to explain it.

Idk.. Love just seems like a bunch of delusional b.s. to me now. But, once you have it, and you're in the moment of enjoying it, it's like a drug, a high, and the person that you're with just feels like your best friend, especially when you click with them. Maybe we were just too immature at that time. I think I went through that relationship for a reason, because now I know what love truly means. There aren't clear cut answers, but when you meet someone who really 'gets' you, it's natural- feels right. No other way to explain it.

Reading that kind of made me sad. I think there are different kinds of love....and that's certainly one of them.... I'm not sure I'm romantically idealistic enough to buy into what romance novels and chick flicks sell as love, but there is something to be said for valuing another person as much as yourself. So much of relationships is selfish....a desire to have someone for what they can offer rather than really wanting to get to know them and likewise let them really know you. Going by feeling is all well and good, but there has to be enough revelation of self from both parties so that when the euphoria starts to fade, there's something substantial left to cling to....and not a complete stranger who was painted with ideals and dreams in the haze of passion. The concept of marrying for love is a pretty romanticized notion....and a fairly young practice. Used to be that marriage was a business contract - to unify families, to provide extra work hands to the husband's family through his wife and children, to provide extra income, to discourage rebellion or conflict, to solidify a contract....all of them very unromantic. The couples rarely had any say in the match - it was their families that made the transaction. I suppose you're bound to either find something to like about someone you're stuck with....or you find a way to not cross paths with them unless you absolutely have to. Anyway, I suppose what I'm saying is, it's good to take the time to really get to know someone and let them know you....rushing isn't ever a good idea when the heart's involved.

My biggest struggle bing an ENFP in love is distance, I am back where I grew up, in MN for the summer. My ISTJ Gf is in IN, where she grew up for the summer. I have lots of really close female friends here who I spend as much of my free time as possible with, a few of them I have an... intimate... history with, this of course makes the time spent together infinitley tempting for both of us, and when I compare my memories of my gf, and even the conversations we have now over the phone and skype, I'm having more fun with my MN people than I think I ever have with my Gf... it's going to be a difficult summer

I'm a love junkie. I've got many close friends which I love like my brothers and sisters. Sometimes I feel horrible due to this because one day I can let them have all of my attention and another day I completely disappear to be with someone else. And I love them, but not with a romantic love, what is very often misinterpreted I feel like I hurt them unintentionally.
When it comes to a romantic love or desire it's hard to me. I fall in love with difficulties, but when it comes, I love this person completely. I can't imagine anyone else in his place. And I idealize a lot, what sucks, yeah :/
I have a kind of a crush on an INTJ though..

oh, and I've never said "I love you" to THIS person. It matters to me A LOT. and I'm so affraid

Helllo

Im a enfp Girl

I agree with what u wrote

and i want to know more enfps

 

do u hav fb )))

 

x Letishaaa

Hiii

Im a enfp girl,  iRead ur post on love

 

I want more enfp friendssss who i relate with

do u have fb???