What is he/she like?

When did you meet?

What type is 'e

When did you decide you wer best friends?

How do you know when someone is your best friend?

Do you both declair it?

Do you have one or two BFFL?

Posted By sbalbom on 12 Nov 2009 09:41 PM

What is he/she like?

When did you meet?

What type is 'e

Kay, I'm pretty sure my best friend Tess is an ISFJ/P. I've literally known her since birth - our parents were friends long before we were born, and 'cuz she's only three months older than me we pretty much grew up together What is she like? Well, she's the person who I spoke about in this thread - she's incredibly perceptive and sensitive, she's amazing at all sorts of art, she's somewhat shy but really warm and caring . She's the sort of person I can run to whenever I need a place to hide from the world

When did you decide you wer best friends?

How do you know when someone is your best friend?

Do you both declair it?

Do you have one or two BFFL?

I think that like all ENFPs I have a coupla hundred BFFs, but she's definitely my BestestBestFriendForever, and I'm pretty sure the feeling is reciprocated  We don't declare it as such, it just kinda goes without saying

Posted By sbalbom on 12 Nov 2009 09:41 PM

What is he/she like?

When did you meet?

What type is 'e

When did you decide you wer best friends?

How do you know when someone is your best friend?

Do you both declair it?

Do you have one or two BFFL?

 

I just wrote about my best friend on another thread.  Didn't see this one.

She's awesome.  She's an ENFP just like me.

We met in 1993 when we belonged to the same group.  We've never lived near each other.  So in fact we have not actually spent that much time in the same space.  

We never "decided" we were best friends.  We just knew and never talked about it till recently.  We're on another message board together.  And every one there knows we're tight.  

I know someone's my best friend, when I can share all my life crap with them and they don't pass judgment on me.  

My "twin" as we sometimes call each other, is the one person I can share everything with.  I have friends for different needs.  I have one friend, she used to be my boss, and she's older than me, so she's my "mommy person" friend.  She's sometimes just a friend and sometimes she's my "mommy".  Now that my daughter is an adult, she's a friend.  Yes, I still mommy her when she needs it, but we've always had more of a "friend" relationship.  We are two spirits that met back up and are playing mommy and daughter.  

And I personally could have more than one BFFL.  I just need to find them.  LOL!!!

Posted By sbalbom on 12 Nov 2009 09:41 PM

What is he/she like?

When did you meet?

What type is 'e

When did you decide you wer best friends?

How do you know when someone is your best friend?

Do you both declair it?

Do you have one or two BFFL?

 

What is he/she like?
- I refer to her as my "spicy italian." She's one of the loudest, most flamboyant, outgoing, "sparkly" people I know. I don't know how to describe her other than "sparkly" She's the one person I can tell anything to and know she's not going to judge me. She's a lot more overtly "sexual" than I am. She gives off this vibe of freedom and confidence that if I'm being honest with myself, I kind of envy, and try to emmulate (most of the time I fail... But if you fall off the horse, you've gotta dust yourself off and get right back on, right?). We have this odd dynamic where she's on the outside the type of person I am in my head, and I'm the same for her.

When did we meet?
-last week of our freshman year in high school. She was right off the plane from Italy. I spoke no Italian, she spoke no English (she could say "what is your favorite color" with a very thick accent), but we both spoke some latin, so I was one of the few people she could communicate with. I brought my little white board and a dry erase marker and taught her the English words she needed to know phonetically so that she could order her own food and ask to go to the bathroom and whatnot, since the only ESL class was for Spanish, and she spoke little Spanish. To this day we really don't need to use words, we just kind of "understand" what the other needs/is feeling.

What type is he/she?
-INTP

When did you decide you were best friends?
-There wasn't really a moment. I think it was when we had a heart to heart and realized that we were incredibly similar, and that we were both schizoids.

How do you know when someone is your best friend?
-When I can tell them anything and know I won't be judged.
-When they refer to me as their "best friend"
-When I'm having an issue, and can't think of anyone else I can talk to about it except for them

Do you both declair it?
-Yes

Do you have one or two BFFs?
- 1

Posted By sbalbom on 12 Nov 2009 09:41 PM

What is he/she like?

When did you meet?

What type is 'e

When did you decide you wer best friends?

How do you know when someone is your best friend?

Do you both declair it?

Do you have one or two BFFL?

 

1. She's an ISTJ. She's is quiet, determined, loyal, an adventureer and would give you the shirt off her back if you needed it. We met my freshman year of highschool, our lockers were close to eachother and we were both new to the school. She her spirit of adventure inspires me. I knew she was my best friend when we can hang out every day and not tire of eachother. She doesn't judge me. We'll go months without seeing eachother because she lives in another state, yet are rejoined and it's like no time has passed. Yes, we know both know that we are one of eachother's dearest friends. I am so blessed by her. 

2. We met our freshman year in highschool.  She is 100% E. She is a thinker. She is creative, mysterious, intelligent, free spirited, sarcastic, organized, independent, crazier than me, partier. And I love her very much. She's an ENTJ. She doesn't understand my heart, but appreciates it.  In highschool we were joined at the hip, we spent all day together at school then I would go to her house and spend the night and weekends there. We were trouble makers. We sat through detention together. hehe. She was very much apart of me discovering myself as a teenager. She allows me to say whatever it is I need to say, and is honestly one of the few people in my world who understands it.  I tell her I lover her often. Just talking about her is causing my heart to bubble over with love hehe.

3. My INFJ older sister. She is my soul mate. She will always take me as I am. She is one of the smartest people I know, has a heart of gold, is sensitive and hilarious. She is very responsible for me becoming "me".  I am continually in awe of her being in my life and am blessed by her love. I tell her fifty million times a day how much I love her.

ESFJs, like Wilson from House, are supporters. They desperately need human contact and approval, so they tend to accept the beliefs of others to avoid conflict. They're wonderful caretakers....but this can get to the point of helping so much that they're hurting the other person.... They cave too easily to demands that are better off being denied. Family is the most important thing to an ESFJ, and often their children become extensions of themselves....and sometimes their own thwarted desires (I would wager that the majority of beauty pageant moms are ESFJs).

My best friend is an ENFP like me. We have our own language, and if I see something for a quick second on the street I find amusing, I usually look over to my friend and he's already laughing because he saw it too! It could be something soooo small as a child's t-shirt with an ugly animal on it or something, and we'll both notice it. Maybe not so much about personality types, so much as it is just a great friendship

My other good friend is an ISFP... which is frustrating sometimes because I see his problems I feel are easily fixed by using some foresight, and not getting into certain situations just because they feel good... but then I notice he has more opportunities than I because he just dives right into things chasing things just for the pleasure...but he is an amazing soul, who would do anything to make me feel better, and I feel safe with.

If I would have to mention one person who's always there for me and almost as crazy as me it would be Marjolijn.

She's the kinda girl that just wants to have fun, but is incredibly intelligent and can always solve my problems with girls. She's also my conscious. Every time I do something wrong or stupid she immediately tells me without beating around the bush.

We met in high school when I was 16 and she was 13. Someone spread the rumor that I called her a "wh*re" and when she came to me to ask for an explanation we immediately became friends. To this day, every time someone asks us how we became such good friends we tell the story of how we met and it always cracks people up!

I have no idea what kind of type she is, but I don't think she's much different from me. Just like me she likes being the center of attention and like me she loves telling stories and jokes. The difference between us is that I tell stories about myself and things I've experienced, while she always tells stories about me instead of herself.

We are not best friends per se. I have different best friends for different topics. I have a best friend to go out and have fun with, I have a best friend for music, I have a best friend for sports (both doing sports and watching it), but she is by far my best friend when it comes to talking about more serious topics like emotions, sex and romance.

We were talking once about our families and I told her how much I regretted never having had a sister, and she told me that her older brother is a jerk who's never there for her and at that very moment we decided to become "brother and sister" and ever since we actually call each other brother and sister.

My best friend is my cat. I met her five years ago. She had been starved and abandoned =[ She kept coming to my house and I couldn't really afford to keep her so my parents kept trying to shoo her away but she kept coming back to me and being really stubborn. She honestly wouldn't leave my side, and it's been the same ever since

I've never had a best friend. Everyone always introduces me as their best friend but I've never felt that kind of attachment to anyone. I've also moved out of my hometown so I dodn't really have any friends here and I'm finding it hard to make any as my accent is totally different so I'm constantly getting prejudged =[ Plus I'm not actually keen on making friends anymore. I feel like I am looked at as more of a "mother figure" then a friend. I have to look after everyone and listen to their problems, not that I mind that, don't get me wrong, but when it comes to me I feel like I can't tell anyone about my problems. And a friendship has to be meaningful and deep for me, I have to be able to reveal everything. But I've never actually had that =[
But I do suppose my sisters are my best friends (ENFP and INFP). But again, I'm more of a mother to them than a friend :/

My best friend is my cat. I met her five years ago. She had been starved and abandoned =[ She kept coming to my house and I couldn't really afford to keep her so my parents kept trying to shoo her away but she kept coming back to me and being really stubborn. She honestly wouldn't leave my side, and it's been the same ever since

Wow that's cute... made me smile actually

 I think we enfps often seem to have many friends, but in reality we often feel alone - in that sense that we rarely meet people with whom we have a deep connection. 
I only know 2 maybe 3 poeple out there i have this deep connection with that are not family.
 

It may be that our ideal of a 'true friendship' is very high and not very easy to reach.

Posted By sbalbom on 12 Nov 2009 09:41 PM

What is he/she like?

When did you meet?

What type is 'e

When did you decide you wer best friends?

How do you know when someone is your best friend?

Do you both declair it?

Do you have one or two BFFL?

 

 

My best friend is the life of the party! She has a HUGE heart and everywhere she goes attracts people with her fun energy and entertaining humor. She knows me more than anyone else and allows me to vent to her when I need to and also listens intently to my whirlwind of ideas for hours. We are emotionally very connected and have a shared love for people.

 

We met when we were very little. We are cousins so probably at one of our birthdays or a Holiday gathering!

 

She is an ESFP a.k.a. The entertainer! Gotta love a friend who knows how to rock a party and have fun

 

I decided we were bestfriends when her parents where going through a devorce and she was crying in my arms over it. We both cried so hard, I felt my heart feel for her so much I knew I loved her deeply as a friend.

 

I think you know when someone is your bestfriend when you realize how much they mean to you, and how much you are ready to carry their burdons with them. Also, so many memories have been created between her and I...every inside joke that cracks us up you cant do with anyone else. These things make her special, the best.

 

Yes. I think over the years it was not as clear on her end. Being an ESFP she went through stages I didnt go through and sought people who where a bad choice of friends. Now that we are adults I am her only life friend and the rest were just seasonal friendships. I always knew she was my bestfriend, and I was also content even if I wasnt her best, I knew someday she would realize.

 

I have, three! Tanya, the ESFP i speak of, Jess an INFP (sweetest most loyal friend Ever!) and Jaime an INTP (we have years as well, we laugh...A lot.)

 

Fun question!

Best friend.. Oddly enough, now that I think about it? People who I consider to be my BFF were both ISFJs. One I met waay back in middle school. I felt a connection with her instantly. A second one in college.

First ISFJ declared me as her BFF, second one (I declared secretly- mostly due to heartwarm letters I receive from her, and the genuine connection I feel). Both mentioned liking my sense of humour. ISFJ I met later on in life tells me at first she thought I was an ENTP. (She obviously was into MBTI). She says that I came off like a lawyer in class, and coincidently, in some odd way, I felt like my sense of humour offended her, but actually she was just shy.

I love them both. I feel closer towards my recent ISFJ friend. I have a few other friends who I would consider "kindred" spirit friends, but I rarely tell people whether or not they are my BFF. I'd rather keep it in my heart, show through my actions, and basically, breath them in like they are my other half. I know- weird response, but that is what BFF truly means to me.