ESFPs are pretty simple creatures. ^_^ *Now* is all there is to them. Dwelling on the past or worrying about the future is a waste of time, not to mention draining, to an ESFP....and typically it only happens when they're stressed. They appreciate you most when you let them keep it light. Consider how you feel out the undertones of a group of people and sense discord or just an uneasiness, and it almost makes you perform in a way to disarm the situation. >.> ESFPs have the same secondary function and desire for harmony...so they also will react in a way to lighten the mood. However, ENFPs lead with Ne....which establishes connections, makes more abstract observations, and is aware of a whole other layer of emotional depth that the ESFP's Se cannot readily detect.

As for intelligence....I think ESFPs can be brilliant and oblivious to it at the same time. Like...you could walk into their kitchen to find it a complete mess with glass vials full of tons of fluids....and they'd have come up with the cure for every major disease in the process of creating their own energy drink. And in reaction to your look of astonishment, they'd sip their concoction, stare at you with a somewhat disinterestedly quizzical look and go "Wut?"

 I think they get stuck in a loop of thinking of ENFP children as the bane of their existence (and the cause of every premature wrinkle and grey hair)

he he spot on.

Basically my mother thought whole my life there's something wrong with me... for being P, F very much. I annoy them with my N too, and considered me weak and annoying for wanting always to talk or be with someone. But since I heard about MBTI it's easier because I am standing up for myself so she is pressed to acknowledge me as equally valid. Before I just didnt defend myself.

She has respect for many things in my personality - like empathy, intelect, creativity, fun, thinking - but thinks I should be able to be ALSO organized, detail-oriented (haha, huge fights about missing stocks), able to detach (cant understand why I care for friends LOL) ... I think I'll be all those things when she decides to read Nietzsche, Jung and starts to paint, and especially when she becomes counselour for people.

Both of my parents are ISTJs. Hardcore on all letters. You can imagine confict on all letters I have with them....

My mother is ENFJ and my father is ESFP. It's like living with Peter and Lois Griffin...

But I took that as him not caring or thinking I was too sensitive. My mother is quite fiesty so when he's acting like a child...which is most of the time...she puts him in his place

Its hard enough for ENFPs. I don't understand how ESFPs make it. Really, I just don't understand how they all don't starve to death. How do they produce enough value to make enough money to feed themselves? I mean I don't know any who can even do manual labor. I dated one who couldn't keep a job at a clothing store. I guess when they have to do something they buckle down and do it. I worked with an ESFP stock broker. He was the worst ever LOLZ. When I was 23 I was his supervisor and he had apx 20+ years of exp.

ESFPs survive making reality tv shows.