What differences would you say there are between an ENFP man and an ENFP woman (if any)?

I have known several ENFP women personally, but no ENFP men. What are ENFP men like out in the wild?

Well....I'm an ENFP woman and I have a father and brother that are also ENFPs...and I also know another male ENFP online. I find that the online ENFP, who's 15, reminds me the most of myself at that age. He's still getting through that "OMG PAY ATTENTION TO ME" phase where the filter of what not to say hasn't developed yet....

Hmm... Well first off, I'd say that female ENFPs are more "cute" while male ENFPs are "engaging" - the key difference is an attributed maturity level. An ENFP female could be a rocket scientist, but the natural, youthful energy we give off gives us a younger demeanor that lends itself to immaturity...and yes, even spaciness. A male, on the other hand, is more like that guy you just want to get to know. He's friendly and approachable and just seems like someone you could trust. I think guys have to develop a more mature....facade, I suppose? They still have the genuine kindness and playfulness of the ENFP, but it's more reserved than a female's. >.>

I've found male ENFPs have a better chance at being successful in business, tbh. They seem more like trustworthy and dependable than cute and in need of protecting. It probably has alot to do with society's expectations of male and female behavior.... -shrug- I notice the other NF types don't have so much of a division....at least not the I's. >< Half the time when I read posts by an INFJ or an INFP I couldn't tell you what gender they are without a huge clue.

A male, on the other hand, is more like that guy you just want to get to know. He's friendly and approachable and just seems like someone you could trust....They seem more like trustworthy and dependable than cute and in need of protecting.

^^that nails the ENFP guys around me. I don't know any ENFP girls, but I'd assume you have a pretty good idea what they're like, lol.

same sorta thing... on INTPforum, it's nearly impossible to tell what gender someone is just by the writing. In fact, someone posted an online site that claimed to be able to tell based on your writing was actually wrong, for all 7 or 8 people who posted their writing into it. I'd betcha that most INTJs are hard to tell, too. The women are a whole lot like the men. It's just an introverted intuitive thing.

Well men in general are going to be less emotional, more aggressive. ENFP men can be devestatingly charming just as ENFP women can be devestatingly seductive, to other "N"s.

This is a tough one... I'm not sure how to answer. The same differences between men and women of all types.

ENFP women are effeminate. The men are sensitive and caring. I think the men are more idealistic when it comes to abstract concepts. While the women are more idealistic when it comes to people and loved ones. However I think everything I said is basically applies to all types.

I'm not seductive. O.O

I only know one ENFP, that's male, and I find other men find him a threat. Its not that he's after all the women or anything, he's just very open and likeable, the women flock round him anyway, because he has this charm, but he's not what I would describe as seedy seductive. he dosen't look them up and down with a seedy eye, it's more of a playful humour. Other men may take it the wrong way. I notice other women pick up when he walks in a room, he's got such a aura of genuine warmth, he's boyish looking too, even though he's in his thirties....he really gets the children in the mood also, they really flock to him, really nice guy.

Aprilla, it sounds like your friend is a good example of an ENFP male. Myself and the other ENFP males I know get those types of reactions. Women and children seem to always enjoy our company and we always get a warm welcome. Males of most other personality types don't warm up to us right away, its what I would describe as mutual and acceptable disrespect for their part, where our reactions are generally the same for anybody we meet. I'm sure its just the combination of our carefree outgoing nature, and how rare male ENFPs are that leads to this behavior, I'm told we can be difficult to read by other types. Females seem to have the warm charming effect on everybody they meet, I blame society.

>.> It's acceptable for a female ENFP to flirt with other girls to put them at ease if they feel threatened by us in the vicinity of their men. It's not as socially acceptable for a male ENFP to use the same tactic to make other men more comfortable with them.

Posted By alysaria on 10 Aug 2009 09:24 AM
I'm not seductive. O.O

I'm not sure why I didn't point this out a week and a half ago.... but you are aware that your avatar is a mermaid staring dreamily off into space, aren't you?

>.> Waving around a giant fork...

Symbolically flaunting how delicious she is?

>.> I could always replace my icon with a stern looking nun

*shakes head* it's too late, cause we already know you. It'd be instantly replaced in our minds with the catholic schoolgirl who she used to be. Plus, I didn't say seductivity was a bad thing.

>.> sigh.

where is that pic from?

Little Mermaid on Broadway

Do you think its tougher being and ENFP man or ENFP women?

Posted By sbalbom on 17 Oct 2009 11:08 PM
Do you think its tougher being an ENFP man or ENFP women?

Tougher? I'm not sure that I understand what you mean...

I get on with nearly everybody, I seldom get bored, and I enjoy what I do (mainly because I never get round to doing anything I don't enjoy). I don't work at being ENFPish - that's just the way I am. I certainly wouldn't describe it as tough.

>.> As a whole, ENFPs have it easy. We can pretty much get whatever we want with minimal effort, and we have simple desires. Female ENFPs have what I like to call the "protect me" vibe. We attract types that want to preserve our innocence and crap as if it's fragile and anyday we'll wake up and become cynical and jaded. Male ENFPs are adventurous and fun...with just enough gender balance to be emotionally sensitive.

Positive outlook, resilience, attractiveness to the people we crave, and very little in the way of needs....."tough" is hardly a word I'd use to describe the life of an ENFP.... Unless of course it's an ENFP surrounded by creatively stifling, life sucking, joy draining extreme SJ types that bring the sadness.

Everything here seems extremely true of me. I'm pretty sure my brother always resented me, because everything came so easily for me while he works his ass off for everything he has. This is true of a couple friends. I live a blessed life where I don't really worry about much, because it all falls into place on its own. While other people freaked out over assignments and grades in class, I didn't even buy the book and still somehow managed to pass them all.

I wouldn't say women and children flock to me, but I am pretty well liked by all my friends. Whenever I walk into a party or a social event where a bunch of my friends are they all yell out my nickname really loudly (which can be embarrassing at times) and everyone has to come hug me and greet me. If there are any newcomers there, they usually stare at me with a weird look in their eye like, "who the hell is this guy??" Sometimes I will keep buddies of mine in conversation till 1-3am on a sunday night outside our traditional sunday-night meeting place. On the outside, I carry various facades, but for those that have got to know me the best know that I'm young at heart and love to kid around and have fun.

I'm usually very well trusted by the more introverted sorts. The more dominant attention-seeking alpha-male types are mistrusting of me or disdainful of me. I am rarely the center of attention, but I am frequently at the center of attention. Certain other male-types feel the need to one-up me like they are in contest with me. I do best in groups of girls (why I had a bunch of female friends), or mixed groups of people a bit younger than me (people 18-20 seem to be pretty captivated by me).

People I like best are other extroverts who are laid back and willing to engage in fun cooperative conversation as opposed to some who take a more adversarial approach to conversation like it's a contest. People I don't like are anyone who looks down on me with an air of superiority for no reason.