Haha! If you ever visit Texas JerseyCityENFP, you can swing by. ;-)

Haha! If you ever visit Texas JerseyCityENFP, you can swing by. ;-)

When we have enough members I'll throw an ENFP vacation package and invite the INTJ fourm.

200 drunk ENFPs in vegas... OMG?

LOL!! That would be so freaking awesome!

Posted By electriclady on 24 Feb 2010 04:45 PM

You lie like a rug . Admit it, you love it!

I'm not much of a toucher. Maybe I will pat someone on the back if they are sad or upset to console them. When I do touch it's more playful in a way where I am doing it on purpose to annoy them . Like poking them off guard. I only hug people that like hugs or request for them (also the ones that say they hate it but secretly love it!)

hahaha.  No, hugs are really nice *now*.  When I was younger I used to hate them, though.  My aunt used to threaten me with a kiss if I didn't let her hug me.

I was a really snuggly kid until I turned about 4 or so.  Then I avoided it like the plague until around high school.  Now I'm much more normal.  I don't act weird if other people don't, and I avoid touching people just so I don't make them uncomfortable.

It should also be noted that I'm from the north-east though.  It's a much different culture up here than where danstar lives, down in Texas.  If a waitress patted some customer on the shoulder here, everyone would be like "what?"

I don't know the personality types of any of the persons I've ever been involved with or known for that matter. I wouldn't know what an ENFP male is like compared to me. I actually kind of long to meet someone more like me. My boyfriend right now seems to be the complete opposite of me and it is most definitely NOT working. He doesn't understand me at all. He doesn't understand that I absolutely loathe cleaning and he doesn't take seriously the fact that I just want to move somewhere else in the country just to see what it's like; I am DEAD serious when I say I want to just pick up and move to LA or New York or Oregon. He is very practical and only concerns himself with what's right here and right now. I like to dream. I want to have new experiences.

You ENFP guys tell me what drives you. What do you want to do? What are your dreams? I am dying to know. Then maybe I can comment on our similarities and differences.

ENFP guys are pretty laid-back for the most part.....except for the ones with a serious hero complex. >.> Once they hit their 20s....ish....ENFP guys are not nearly as spazzed out as females. O.O

You don't want to live in LA. Just my opinion though. Oregon might be a nice place.

I just discovered I fall into the ENFP type. Reading through all the definitions, it sounds pretty close. My questions, and maybe some of you can help. From the testing I took. I fall equally in the autistic spectrum and neurotypical spectrum. Neither spectrum seems to be dominant. In addition I seem to use both right and left hemispheres equally. I didn't know this was a possibility.

For eyebrows dan . OK, what drives me. I think their are a few different motivators for me. I want to help people any way I can. I want to fit in. I want to do the right thing, or the right thing as I see it. I want to contribute something to society to make things better for all of us.

I honestly have no idea what I want to do in life. I know that the last statement in the previous line is a big motivator for me. What it is I can do to achieve that reasonably, I still don't know. I am very mechanically inclined and technically oriented.

I'm definately a dreamer, a what-if kind of person.

I do run off logic. Which makes it hard for me to understand people sometimes when their coming from an illogical viewpoint. Addmitedly I am far from always logical. Sometimes the emotional side gets the better of me.

Me in a very small nutshell. ;-)

Sean

As an ENFP male, I can tell you without a doubt that the one thing the drives me is to inspire others. 

When I watch TV or a movie, I am most moved by the characters or people who are the greatest motivators and inspirers.  I love to watch the TV show "Intervention" on A&E in order to watch how the interventionists work. 

One of my favorite movies is "The Karate Kid."  Mr. Miyagi is my hero.  I tear up everytime during the final scene when Daniel is fighting for the championship.  Because he can only stand on one leg, he sets up for the "Crane" technique that he learned from Miyagi.  There is one fleeting camera shot that shows Mr. Miyagi silently putting every ounce of his faith in Daniel.  He lowers his head slightly and focuses his eyes with a very intense expression on his face.  The whole shot takes about 2 seconds, but it makes me cry.  I want to be like Mr. Miyagi.  I want to inspire someone to reach beyond there dreams!

I've had a few opportunities to give motivational speeches to groups.  I really felt alive during those moments. 

Sounds pretty corny, but that's it.  I want to Inspire...

More random thoughts later...

datbrown

 

 

 

I'm starting to think we're a bit of a tough bunch -- opposite of M&M's: melt on the outside, hard shell on the inside. More goo inside that, but getting there is a b**ch. (beach -- sunshine, sand).

LA is cash-money city. Not a bad spot. San Fran used to have it going on for ENFP freakiness. NYC is good in that there is a "no S" barrier that runs invisibly around Manhattan Island. "Ss" cannot penetrate it, so many NTs and NFs wind up there.

Dreams: live in a harmonious world, be warm, have nature around, live in a community of sharp, insightful people interested in the arts, enjoy laughing & sharing stories over dinner, have good close family, stay healthy & fit.

Want to dos: make people laugh with comedy, make great photography, teach, raise children. Explore life's many interests. Build a good relationship.

Other ENFP men?

I'm INTJ - most of these thoughts have no real relation to me

My desire to help people usually manifests in the form of helping them develop their abilities and be more rational. How they feel - is not my problem

Hmmm... just got home from work and am stuffing my face with bison chili. Yum yum. Something that also sounds yummy is an ENFP man. I wish I knew some. Or knew that I knew some. Everything you guys describe is me as well.

It would be really cool to have the same wants, desires and drives as someone else. Too bad. =(

I meant someone else have the same wants, desires and drives as me. Lol. Tired from work. Hehe.

That's not really a given danstar. O.O I can understand wanting someone who can understand your point of view and how you see the world.....but every ENFP won't have the same wants, desires, and drives..... We have our similarities, but we're all still different people with different backgrounds and experiences. Honestly, it's just as well to find a person who has the same interests, regardless of type. ^_^

I've personally met 2 confirmed ENFP guys irl. One I only talked to on one occasion for 3 hours. He gave me his number but I wasn't inclined to call him. -shrug- The other is my INTJ friend's brother. He's a nice guy and I don't mind chatting with him.....but when he sends me text messages, he sends a TON! >.> He's very bad at taking the hint when I'm busy or don't have anything to say....and he asks me what I'm doing like 5 times in a row. -_-;;; Most ENFPs I know typically either ask me for advice, tell me a story, or show me a random shiny that caught their interest. Fun, but overwhelming to someone who hangs out mostly with IN**s.

I know how you feel.  I am an ENFP male and I really don't have any ENFP females to talk to.  I am surrounded by xSxJ's everywhere.  I do know a couple of INTJ's that I get along with pretty well, but they are guys too.  I find it easier to talk to females most of the time, but I'm really curious how another ENFP would be as a friend.

datbrown

 

Of the INTJs I've met (7-8) - none of us have really wanted to be friends, or do much together. Part of that is probably just us all being independent and having our own interests but still... Its not that I can't talk to them.. they're easy enough to talk to. But... they're similar to me with different views on life... not super-workable.

I think the idea that we'd be happier with people who compliment us, probably works better... although you can look for and meet ENFPs for the novelty of it. In a relationship, you need someone who brings out more positive qualities and experiences in you, that you want and don't typically have.

An INTJ doesn't have that much to offer another INTJ. I doubt an ENFP has that much to offer another ENFP.

It can be really refreshing to find someone who thinks the way you do--in tangents and anecdotes and burgeoning ideas that just have to spring forth. I always enjoyed my conversations with thedeepestblue, simply because we never lacked for topics. Something would always remind us of something else and we'd just take an idea and explore it--not debate its merits or validity, necessarily, [although we did that too] but doing what we usually do in terms of thoughts and perceiving the world, this time with a companion. And it'd range from ridiculous to philosophical, often in the same line.

Okay. I understand. I guess I just haven't met anyone who really has the same interests as me. It seems I am always manipulating myself to be more in tune with other people's interests so I can find common ground with them instead of trying to find someone who will actually have common ground with me. That kinda sucks. makes me feel like I'm all alone and, as you guys know, for an ENFP is a particularly nasty way to feel.

I need to throw my current boyfriend to the curb and meet new people. Oh, and I understand that I don't have to just find a romantic partner that compliments me but with my current boyfriend I can't even meet new friends. He's a controlling jealous ass. Grrrrr.

I need to throw my current boyfriend to the curb and meet new people. Oh, and I understand that I don't have to just find a romantic partner that compliments me but with my current boyfriend I can't even meet new friends. He's a controlling jealous ass. Grrrrr.

@danstar:

http://www.themetrohub.com/dallas/social-calendar.aspx

Thank me later.

Dallas???  I'm going to be there this month for a week with almost nothing to do...  Ideas people  IDEAS!!!

P.S.  is there an easy way to get to Arlington from downtown Dallas?

datbrown