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 I've read some contradictory statements about how much interpersonal interaction your average ENFP needs. I am pretty shy so sometimes I feel like a downright introvert. And while I with out a doubt am an extrovert I also need a good deal of time to myself. Are you shy? Do you need time to your self or else you'd go crazy? 

Posted By Noodle on 09 Nov 2009 09:41 PM

 I've read some contradictory statements about how much interpersonal interaction your average ENFP needs. I am pretty shy so sometimes I feel like a downright introvert. And while I with out a doubt am an extrovert I also need a good deal of time to myself. Are you shy? Do you need time to your self or else you'd go crazy? 

Most Extroverts I know need some down time.  Otherwise it's like drinking coffee 24/7.  I love my down time.  But I also love being around people.  But if I'm around others too much, I get a bit anxious and need time to myself.

Posted By alysaria on 10 Nov 2009 01:06 PM
I'm not shy persay....and if I was in high school, there was a good reason for that. When people treat you like you're an idiot every time you talk, you tend to stop talking to them. -_-;;; When I was comfortable (which was typically in more creative classes and groups), I was a freaking blabbermouth....like I had to balance out all the quiet, introvertedness with enough outgoing energy to power a small country.

Heh - sure sounds like me atm

Posted By Kathy on 10 Nov 2009 07:56 PM

Posted By Noodle on 09 Nov 2009 09:41 PM

 I've read some contradictory statements about how much interpersonal interaction your average ENFP needs. I am pretty shy so sometimes I feel like a downright introvert. And while I with out a doubt am an extrovert I also need a good deal of time to myself. Are you shy? Do you need time to your self or else you'd go crazy? 

 

Most Extroverts I know need some down time.  Otherwise it's like drinking coffee 24/7.  I love my down time.  But I also love being around people.  But if I'm around others too much, I get a bit anxious and need time to myself.

 

Well I knew that. But I've read in some descriptions that ENFPs and ENTPs are the most 'shy' extroverts. And yet I've read in others that ENFPs are the most extroverted extroverts. Which is right I wonder? Perhaps I should have rephrased the OP but whatever.

But you bring up something intriguing: maybe the its the Ne thing? Cause Ne is like being on crack alllll daaay maybe thats why ENFPs and ENTPs (apparently) need more down time then other extroverts.     

Posted By Noodle on 11 Nov 2009 08:25 PM
I do not know how to use the quote thingy and I've been on Mbti forums for a while.

Another episode of man versus machine..

Above the post you want to quote is a little "quote" button.  Just click on it and you will have your "quote".

Yeah that works, I think the problems people have is when they try to break somebody else's post into little bits so they can comment on each point seperately. It can get kinda buggy if you're making a long post with lots of different quotes that you move around when you edit it. Consider:

Posted By Kathy on 11 Nov 2009 08:43 PM

Posted By Noodle on 11 Nov 2009 08:25 PM
I do not know how to use the quote thingy and I've been on Mbti forums for a while.

Another episode of man versus machine..

Above the post you want to quote is a little "quote" button.

I agree with this.

Just click on it and you will have your "quote".

I agree with this too.

Huh? Where did that come from?!?

Posted By Sakari on 16 Nov 2009 11:00 AM
If you click 'Source,' it will break everything into HTML. Then you can copy/past/edit it however which way you want. That's how I do it.

And to get back on topic [xD]: I'm only shy when I'm intimidated by others. Around extroverts, I talk less, around introverts, maybe a little bit more. Sometimes I start overthinking the conversation and wondering what I should do--be random or try to start a meaningful conversation? I also rely too much on the idea that others will eventually say what I'm thinking, but they'll say it a lot better than I ever will, so that takes out a lot of what I could say that I don't.

Yeah - sometimes when I'm feeling a bit awkward I keep second guessing myself - or thinking how to phrase something best for so long that by the time I've got a sentence ready the conversation has moved on... On the other hand, sometimes I over-compensate by talking too fast for the others, and not second guessing myself when perhaps I should... I also find myself wanting to follow every possible path of conversation - to separately answer each point someone makes, something that doesn't really work that well in practise (you get to the point when you're juggling about ten different topics, and then you give up ).

Are you shy?

Meeting and conversing with total strangers is easy for me; I'm somewhat addicted to meetup.com. I went to a meetup this summer at a large cafe to discuss Eliot's Middlemarch. Somehow there were two other meetup.com groups there on the same day-- a few fugly women for a feminism group, and then a huge group with well over twenty people to discuss social anxiety. Yes, social anxiety. That's a collosal logic fail. A swarm to discuss social anxiety? How did they all manage to summon the courage?

I am shy . Always have been, but when around good energy or interesting people I open up more and am able to relax and be myself.