For most part, no, but it depends on the crowd.

I think the problem with being ENFP is being overly sensitive to the vibe/mood of people all at one time. So if there's negative energy, I tend to pick it up fairly quickly and understand that I might be diving into a pool of ravenous monsters. It sucks because while we ENFPs are really all about the self-expression, disapproval STINGS (like it or not)

I spend a lot of time alone, and I like that. I just looked up the difference between introversion (lack of interest in socializing) and shyness (fear of socializing). I'd say I'm a bit of both. I can talk to strangers, no problem. I can give speeches and go on job interviews. But I'm bad with dating. In fact, I'd say, I prefer superficial relationships. When people get too close, sometimes they get very judgemental. It makes me not want to open up to people to give them reasons to judge me.

I'm thinking I'm mostly shy when I have no energy to try and hold a good conversation with someone...
I know inside I'd love to jump out more!

Posted By Noodle on 09 Nov 2009 09:41 PM

 I am pretty shy so sometimes I feel like a downright introvert. 

 

 

 

 

Just to clarify, being an introvert doesn't make you shy.  Choosing to keep to yourself, and choosing to not go out and live on the social scene are different concepts than being shy/anxious in public.  For many introverts, it seems that they are shy because they don't like most people and loathe small talk - so they try to avoid it.  What you perceive as shy is merely an attempt to not come off as rude.

 

Extroversion is not synonymous with bubbly nor is introvert with shy. The two traits are independent of MBTI type. I thought I was a I not and E for years, because I was shy. It didn't mean I didn't need people, just that I was scared to approach them, on the contrary I was very lonely and wanted interaction but was too worried usually of coming off weird. So to sum it up, I am an extrovert, I go CRAZY without people, am terrible at living alone, and really like to talk to people. Kinda cruel that I also developed social phobia due to abrupt changes growing up. I rarely felt connected because I was too busy thinking about how other's perceived me. Now I have (thank god!) overcome most of my shyness and am constantly looking for ways to meet people now.

That kind of reminds me of this kitty....all wanting attention and affection but scared to death:

Yes, I do consider myself "shy."

Sometimes. For me it just depends on what my confidence meter is reading at the time. If I'm feeling "up" I go in with my ENFP powers blazing from my finger tips and move through a room like a social wizard collecting business cards, phone numbers and making people laugh. I really enjoy this because like most ENFPs I think meeting interesting people is one of the great joys of life. If I'm feeling down however and the confidence meter is reading low for whatever reason (maybe some recent personal or professional problem) that sort of social mastery/fluidity is harder to summon. I feel more self-conscious and stick with what's familiar and chat with friends and it's like I left the magic social wand at home. But I think this is normal. We can't be at our best all the time, but when we are...watch out!

Aww, fleetwell. I'm so sorry. I got distracted from the voice acting challenge and then completely forgot my password for the email. It's still a cool idea.

Anyways, to subject, I'm not so much shy as aloof or distant. I can be quite friendly with the right person in the right frame of mind. I just don't make good forced small talk. I love people that naturally make me feel that I can skip this part and comment on the awkward and hopefully a connection.

I'm kind of socially lazy. If I have a good close friend that I can do quiet, relaxing things with, I don't really feel like getting out there and meeting new people and stuff. The problem with meeting new people is that you generally have to go through the small talk phase for awhile. And, that is just such a drag... I hate small talk. On the other hand, I can be pretty adventurous and sometimes (maybe more than sometimes?) I am downright silly and gregarious. It really depends on the people/situation/my mood/etc. It is kind of weird how one day I'll be the extremely quiet rather nerdy girl and the next day I'll be the bubbly, energetic life-of-the-party type. It depends a lot on the other personalities that I am interacting with, how comfortable I feel, and whether or not I think I will gain more by fading to the background or being the center of attention.