LOL, pinning down an INTJ is like nailing jelly to the wall! We're slippery little suckers

Small talk blows. There's an internal struggle between what the INTJ in me wants to do and what's expected socially. e.g work experience recently. There's always time gaps in between procedures we perform on patients, and Society expects small talk to fill those gaps. Got stuck with someone and I remember thinking 'just met you, don't know who you are, don't care, can't think of anything to say and don't care what your response is anyway' so I dug in my heels and remained mute. My supervisor came in later and broke the awkward silence by chatting away, easily building trust and rapport, which is really important.

Guess I need to brainstorm an arsenal of small talk questions & topics and repeat them ad nauseum.

But it's good to hear these things can be learned, Psyko. I really do love the extraordinary and rare set of gifts we INTJs have and I don't want to lose them, just feels like they come at a great cost too.

You know you're an INTJ when...

You're over-familiar with the phrases, "I knew you were going to do that", or  "I knew that was going to happen". Because we know when you're trying to get your own way, we know what you're trying to achieve, we know exactly how you're going to execute you're little plan to play us, and we know you think you're being really clever and sneaky but you're actually totally & instantly transparent, and it's great fun watching the whole thing unfold just as we predicted, while feigning ignorance mwah ha ha ha

Or you can actually care about what that other person is saying, ask good follow up questions and maybe, maybe be perceived as friendly & caring instead of uninterested & cold... Just a thought! 

Where is the fun in that? Hearing '' How was your day?'' for the so 1000th time gets dull

Posted By Tabow on 15 Dec 2009 03:15 PM

Where is the fun in that? Hearing '' How was your day?'' for the so 1000th time gets dull

... or when some dental hygenist is telling you all about how amazingly well her her fat kids are doing in elementary school and how special they are for a half hour.  And she expects you to respond while she has sharp, pointy objects in your mouth.

Or the hairdresser! I always engage in small talk with them while they're doing their thing, just in case they get cranky at me and give me a bad cut for being such a 'snob'

This happens all the time, like when reading a book/article/forums, watching a movie, lectures.... When something you hear or read sets off your thought processes and next thing you know you've been virtually catatonic, staring at one spot on the carpet while lost in deep thought, for 30 minutes

I'm useless in lectures. Despite the best of intentions and regardless of the amount of caffeine i've had, there's a 10 minute window of undivided attention then i'm in lala land. Usually because:

1. an idea/fact has captured my imagination and I want to explore it
2. not interested in the topic, so i'm totally switched-off
3. lecturer is belaboring a 'difficult' concept for the benefit of the rest of the class, while I understood immediately and got bored

Posted By Esquilax on 16 Dec 2009 01:24 AM

Or the hairdresser! I always engage in small talk with them while they're doing their thing, just in case they get cranky at me and give me a bad cut for being such a 'snob'

This happens all the time, like when reading a book/article/forums, watching a movie, lectures.... When something you hear or read sets off your thought processes and next thing you know you've been virtually catatonic, staring at one spot on the carpet while lost in deep thought, for 30 minutes

I'm useless in lectures. Despite the best of intentions and regardless of the amount of caffeine i've had, there's a 10 minute window of undivided attention then i'm in lala land. Usually because:

1. an idea/fact has captured my imagination and I want to explore it
2. not interested in the topic, so i'm totally switched-off
3. lecturer is belaboring a 'difficult' concept for the benefit of the rest of the class, while I understood immediately and got bored

 

Ha,ha Esquilax, I so recognize myself in that. Especially the switch-off during lectures during my time at University. And then, even if I appeared 'dead', I must have paid attention somehow, because every now and then I heard myself ask questions or comment on something the professor just said... 

Forcing other to go shopping for you and then claiming you have an excelent sense of style ^^

INTJ pick-up line:  "I want to rip off your logic and make passionate sense to you". This just might work 

Credit: here

"I want to rip off your logic and make passionate sense to you"

I want to rip off your logic and make passionate sense to you

I agree with the 'this might work'. At least, it would intrigue me. The statement sounds erroneous though.

I'll rip off your logic, and make you subservient to me/mine
~ raises eyebrow - intrigued at such a presumptuous statement ~

I'd be like: Someone thinks really highly of themselves here, I like it

You're an INTJ if you wish you could be yourself without expecting to break the weak minds of the people you're hanging with

j/k

INTJ pick-up line: "I want to rip off your logic and make passionate sense to you". This just might work

Credit: here