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| 14 Dec 2009 09:03 AM |
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Ramen and a napp but I am not going to get that am I.
AM I!
This thread is about stuff you'd like right now. Hopefully you'll have better luck with whatever your wanting.
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Esquilax
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| 14 Dec 2009 10:23 AM |
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Nawww, hope you got a good rest later
I'd like the chance to eat a proper meal today, but dinner at midnight isn't the greatest idea so I'll go to bed hungry instead  |
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Sakari
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| 14 Dec 2009 03:28 PM |
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I'd like a chance to get some decent sleep without losing out on precious study time. [Currently on a break.  ] Oh, I'd also like to go for a run or something because I've been feeling pretty lethargic lately. Too bad there's no place to run around in this concrete box. >.< |
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Psyko
MBTI: INTJ
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| 14 Dec 2009 03:49 PM |
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I'm exhausted and would like to get to sleep too, without a racing mind interfering. I'd also like to feel energetic enough to clean up my place and organize some chaos tomorrow  |
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KrisQueQuoi
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| 15 Dec 2009 11:58 PM |
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To take a nice, hot bath.
Unfortunately, my apartment only has a shower. It's been raining though, puddle diving seems kind of....
Well, gross =D |
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sbalbom
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| 22 Dec 2009 06:40 PM |
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I would like to lose 2 lbs of fat |
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"You must have chaos within you to give birth to a dancing star..."
"....And if you gaze for long into an abyss, the abyss gazes also into you." - Nietzsche |
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Psyko
MBTI: INTJ
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| 27 Dec 2009 05:49 PM |
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I would like to know what the hell happened... |
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Esquilax
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| 27 Dec 2009 08:13 PM |
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oh noes! *hugs* Hope things are ok, Psyko |
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alysaria
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| 28 Dec 2009 03:05 AM |
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I would like to fix my sleep schedule.... it's 3am where I am. >< And I'm gonna sleep in til noon or later prolly. |
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Psyko
MBTI: INTJ
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| 28 Dec 2009 02:19 PM |
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Posted By Esquilax on 27 Dec 2009 07:13 PM
oh noes! *hugs* Hope things are ok, Psyko
Thanks for the hug Esquilax. I'm physically ok, just very confused and sad. It seems that I've 'lost' the ENFP I love... I was in touch with him last Thursday, and after that, he hasn't responded to any of my texts or answered my call. I'm seriously worried, but don't know if this is his way of dropping me or if something really bad has happened, hence the 'would like to know what happened' comment. I've begged him for a 'proof of life' reply to my text no matter how busy he is, but I haven't heard from him. I honestly don't know what to do. I have a bad feeling about this.. 
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alysaria
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| 28 Dec 2009 04:13 PM |
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Psyko...relax. ENFPs are notoriously bad at checking emails, text messages, mail, and anything else someone tries to contact us with....we'll go through phases where we'll be on top of everything....then something distracts us. My INTJ friend pretty much had to let me know just how much of a panic attack he has if he doesn't hear from me a few times a week. It's one of the most endearing, if sometimes overbearing  qualities of an INTJ who cares to be overprotective and always assume the worst if you don't stay in touch. My INTJ friend used my empathy against me to get me to pay more attention - he told me he'd get worried if he didn't hear from me...and also threatened to come hunt me down if I took too long to reply. He lives 6 hours away....I would never want to inconvenience him into making a huge drive because of my easily distracted nature. As for trying to "drop hints to break up"......if you keep trying to contact an ENFP long enough, eventually they'll be forced to tell you what's up. I've dumped a few guys by going all silent on them....but then again, they never really tried to communicate with me after....and I wouldn't have called them serious relationships. I suppose just remind him that you worry and it's important to you to stay in touch. |
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Psyko
MBTI: INTJ
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| 28 Dec 2009 05:35 PM |
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I know it must seem like I'm stressing over nothing. Thanks Alysaria. It is still weird. We've been in touch daily (or close to daily,) for months. I knew he had planned a slow weekend so I didn't bug him on Thursday, Friday or before Sat. evening. Then I asked if everything was ok and that I was worried. On Sunday I tried calling and saying I was big time worried and that he should give me a sign that he is still alive. Haven't heard anything. He's not been online either which is almost absurd. I can't hunt him down, he lives a continent and an ocean away. If I've felt that he's dropped off the face of the earth before, I send him a text and he gives me a quick reply saying that everything is ok, but that he is busy, and I hang back for a day or two, no problems. If he had told me that he was just busy this time, I wouldn't have stressed at all. This is very different and unlike him. Oh well, I guess he must come up for air from whatever he is doing, sometime. Still worried though... |
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Psyko
MBTI: INTJ
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| 28 Dec 2009 05:42 PM |
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BTW, I don't understand 'the going silent on someone' as a dumping method at all!!! The problem (us) don't go away if you ignore it. We'll just be more hurt and pissed off at you guys for treating us so badly. If you are dealing with NTs and especially INTJs, we'd rather hear: 'I'm so sorry, I have to dump you for a sexier, smarter, thinner & more beautiful girl than you. Have a nice life', than nothing at all. I think it is disrespectful to dump someone by silence. By saying that you are sorry but things don't work out for you, or that you've met someone else, you own up to the situation, take charge and let the other person have some closure. Ignoring someone is a very bad way to break up in my book... (Sorry, couldn't resist.) Honesty & truth will always, always earn an NTs respect, no matter how ugly the truth is. |
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JHBowden
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| 28 Dec 2009 05:53 PM |
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Honesty & truth will always, always earn an NTs respect, no matter how ugly the truth is. True dat!
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cryptonia
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| 28 Dec 2009 11:22 PM |
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Posted By Psyko on 28 Dec 2009 04:42 PM
The problem (us) don't go away if you ignore it. We'll just be more hurt and pissed off at you guys for treating us so badly. If you are dealing with NTs and especially INTJs, we'd rather hear: 'I'm so sorry, I have to dump you for a sexier, smarter, thinner & more beautiful girl than you. Have a nice life', than nothing at all. I think it is disrespectful to dump someone by silence. By saying that you are sorry but things don't work out for you, or that you've met someone else, you own up to the situation, take charge and let the other person have some closure.
^^win. I wouldn't do this with INTPs either. Stereotypically, Ps aren't supposed to have the need for closure, but it still pisses me off when people try to do this kind of stuff to me. Mostly it's the "it's disrespectful" that I had independently thought before. Frustrating as hell.
I think for your INTx's, though, there's no such thing as a non-serious relationship. Or at least... the relationship is either very serious, or else you're the type of INT who thinks there's something wrong with "possessing" another person the way couples do, so they don't want any sort of monogamous relationship at all anyway. So maybe going silent isn't such a horrible way to break up in casual ones.... I wouldn't know anything about those, though. |
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Psyko
MBTI: INTJ
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| 29 Dec 2009 08:18 AM |
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Posted By cryptonia on 28 Dec 2009 10:22 PM
I think for your INTx's, though, there's no such thing as a non-serious relationship.
I am an NT and can rationalize anything! If I'm involved with someone and we both agree that it's about two people having fun and no one wants or needs to get involved or get more serious, that is fine. But I need to know where the other person stands, so I won't become too involved emotionally or end up hurting the guy.
As for the ENFP in mention, I know now that he isn't lying dead in a ditch or comatose in a hospital, since I can see that he's been online since yesterday. I'm relieved to see that he is alive and that nothing too serious has happened (or I guess he wouldn't be online.) But I still haven't heard from him. My theory is that he's hooked up with someone, either a new person or an old ex or something and feels so bad about it, that he doesn't know how to respond to me. (Or he is so smitten with her, I no longer exist in his conscience...) I have a very fine tuned detector for an NF switching off and I'm normally able to guess the reason too. I knew instantly that something was wrong.
I'm extremely sad about this, but I don't think I'll bother him by sending any more texts or phone calls. He knows very well that I want him to contact me. The really sad part is that I don't care about the hook-up at all (if that is what it is,) I just care that he is distancing himself from me and I want him back.
To ENFPs out there: please have the decency to end things when you are half involved with NTs and need to pull the plug. It's so much better for us. You are actually hurting us more by being silent than saying that you want out. And being NFs, the last thing you want is to hurt someone.
To 'My' ENFP: know that I love you and miss you and I want you to contact me no matter what you did or whatever happened last week. I love listening to your voice and our hour long conversations are so precious to me. You got to know the real me and I loved the way you included me in your everyday life. We were addicted to each other. I was so looking forward to meeting you in Italy in a couple of months. If you never get back to me, I wish you all the best and I'm not mad, just disappointed. I thought we had something real hun. I will be waiting for you for a while, before I give up hope. xKx |
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alysaria
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| 29 Dec 2009 02:13 PM |
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>< now I feel like a mean jerk.... but see.... for me at least, this it the thing. While going through every possible future between myself and other person, I suddenly and inexplicably hit upon the realization that we aren't a pair and there is no real future, at least not one I'd be happy with. I've pretty much reacted this way with what I believe was an ESFJ.... >.> On the other hand, I was pretty blunt with an ENTP who was interested in me, letting him know that I didn't think a long distance relationship between us would work and that I didn't think things could really be serious between us. And I broke up with an ESFP by constantly pestering him over every little problem until he finally found the nerve to tell me things wouldn't work out.
I'm very attuned to people, and I tend to naturally react in the way that seems best to me to still maintain a somewhat friendly relationship after the fact. I could run into the ESFJ or the ESFP and not have things be awkward. The ENTP....well, I'd probably run the other way if I saw him....but that's a long story.
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Psyko
MBTI: INTJ
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| 29 Dec 2009 05:24 PM |
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You are not a jerk alysaria. I'm sorry if I made you feel like one by making an example out of what you said you'd done in the past. I didn't mean to, I just don't care for the silent treatment at all. It's happened once or twice to me after very difficult situations when the (NF) guys have behaved very badly towards me and knew that I would not be pleased and probably yell at them, so they took the 'easy' way out and bailed on me.
Seeing that it wouldn't work out between you and another person is okay, it's also okay to say that. What is not okay is to just turn your back on someone. I'm sure there are some people or some situations that would warrant the silent treatment, but in the whole it's not something I'd recommend.
I was just trying to make a point that with us rationals, you can say whatever and we will deal with it. So it won't be so hard to tell us that you want to break up with us. We will appreciate you letting us know even if we will feel sad for a while. I know I would be able to deal with whatever. (Maybe except if my enfp husband murdered our children, that would be hard to get past... But you know what I mean.) |
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